Do you talk about sex?
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Do you talk about sex?
| Fri, 11-11-2005 - 3:55pm |
I was involved in a discussion on another board about discussing the ups and downs and ins and outs of relationship with others,like friends and co-workers. The consensus on that board was that discussing anything more than “he gave me flowers” was inappropriate. The members of that board believe that discussing ones sex life or any other intimate detail of their relationship with anyone other than your partner was a terrible violation of trust, crude, disrespectful,etc. So I wonder if the people on the other board are just a little uptight about sex,so I thought I would present this question here on this board. Do you discuss your relationships with friends? If so, how much do you reveal? Just curious. I discuss my relationships with friends and my friends discuss their relationships with me and I have no problem with the openness. How about you?

I consider my husband to be the most important person in my life, and I try to always honor that fact. I don't discuss personal things or anything that is embarrassing about him to other people. I'll talk about things relating to him, but only positive things that he wouldn't mind if people knew. I have mentioned sexual things to close friends before, but again only positive things that I know he doesn't mind. If I did need to talk about something I was upset about, I'd do it online where things are more anonymous.
I had a different point of view before we got married while I was still casually dating. I didn't care so much about being discreet if it was someone I wasn't committed to.
My partner knows that I have talked to my closest friends about sex and it was in a positive manner.
I would talk to my closest friend about sex to ask their advice if I thought it would help.
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I see no reason to discuss intimate details of our sex life with others.
What I do in my bedroom is no one's business but mine, and my partner's. That includes telling a current partner what I did with a previous partner. And, I'm not uptight about sex at all. It has to do with privacy and propriety. I might discuss my partner's health, but I would never disclose that he has and erection problem, or that he needs viagra.....any more than I would tell them that I don't have orgasms, or don't lubricate well. That is personal and private between two people.
I might discuss it on an anonymous forum such as these message boards, but NEVER with friends. They don't want to know what I do anymore than I want to know what they do.
Sex in "general" is a different thing. "Have you ever heard of....." or do you know what this is......sure. Why not?
It's, perhaps, a little different for me being a guy. I certainly don't talk about sex with co-workers and I can't say I discuss it much with friends either. If it is discussed with male friends then it's in very vague terms and is probably limited to indicating that everything is good. No details.
I know that my partner discusses some things with her closest female friend. For example, she mentioned that her best friend's new b/f wanted to get her a vibrator for use while he was away - we'd gotten one recently and had a catalogue sitting in the bedside drawer so she gave the friend that. I guess it was only mentioned to me in case I was wondering why she was putting a sex toy catalogue into her bag. I know that they've discussed lingerie in some detail and what their b/f's have purchased them and b/f's reactions to the latest sexy piece of nothingness. Other than that, I don't know what they talk about. I don't think that they swap nitty gritty intimate details like performance issues and penis size etc. but it wouldn't surprise me. I'd prefer not to know if they do that :-) I guess that I'm OK with it if it's just kept between them. I seem to get the impression that my partner's best friend although very outgoing and attractive is somewhat unexpectedly naieve in the bedroom and my partner helps her out a bit with tips and tricks and ideas. I guess that I'm more relaxed about it because I'm fine with posting about the same sort of thing here on these boards.
If you throw alcohol into the mix and the late wee hours of the morning with a small intimate group of a couple of friends then the rules change. I've been known to swap explicit ideas and talk about specific preferences while winding down and cushioned after a good night out. I wouldn't say that it was specific details about what I did with a partner, but it was certainly preferences and thoughts about certain things.