Do you watch XXX video

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Do you watch XXX video
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Mon, 10-17-2005 - 11:09pm
Did you find XXX video can improve your sex life? My boyfriend told me to buy some XXX movies and do the same things like the video.

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Tue, 10-18-2005 - 7:24am

The question is, do YOU want to watch X movies and do


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Tue, 10-18-2005 - 7:39am
My wife and I always watch xxx videos during forepaly and beyond. Very stimulating and we have learned a lot over the years.
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Tue, 10-18-2005 - 9:43am

Well, there are TWO in the relationship and TWO points of view to consider. You aren't a porn star, so no matter what, sex won't be like it is in the fantasy land of porn.

If porn isn't offensive to you, then give one a look, then decide what you might try and what you won't. If porn is offensive, then tell him so.

Now, ask him what HE'S willing to do to make your sex life better. Perhaps he should cut back on his porn usage if he's becoming bored with real sex.




Edited 10/18/2005 10:05 am ET by katmandoo2001
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Tue, 10-18-2005 - 8:24pm

First of all ... the sex in most videos in unrealistic. Your bf may see girls (or guys) having what appear to be screaming, ever-lasting, knuckle biting sex. It's called ACTING.


That said ...


I don't think pornography improves our *sex life* but it can improve a particular sexual escape.

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Tue, 10-18-2005 - 9:53pm

It sounds a little one sided.

What's HE going to do to improve your sex life?

I would have thought that it would be a nicer idea if the two of you had talked about sex and he was able to tell you and show you what he likes and what he wanted you to do to and for him. Sure, porn videos are interesting and can be very arousing and give you some ideas but they're not real. It's like telling your b/f to go watch some rap videos and see what the guys in those look like and come back when he looks that handsome, can sing that well, and has that much bling! It ain't gonna happen!

Porn videos (if you like em, and lots of people don't) aren't real. They are entertainment like any other movie. You don't watch a Batman movie and then expect every guy that you date to look like Bruce Wayne and fly around in a batsuit. Likewise, you don't watch a porn movie and then expect every woman to look and act like the women in the porn movies. It just isn't possible most of the time.

Watch some porn movies if you like, get some ideas if you want. Talk to your b/f about sex and find out what he likes and how he likes it done. Practice. Don't do anything that you do not feel comfortable with or don't want to do - after-all, it's about respect too, and that is something that is often missing in porn movies. In fact, many porn movies are just downright nasty.

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Wed, 10-19-2005 - 2:01pm
I wouldnt dismiss the value of what can be learned from watching a well made porn movie. There are several techniques that can be learned, ie; what some positions are and how they work, oral technique, different places one can make love (doesnt always have to be in bed). Some of the things you see will appeal to you, and some things wont appeal to you. Its all personal preference. One thing you will notice, however. Even though the actors ARE acting, at least they normally approach sex with a certain attitude. Its called enthusiasm and confidence. It makes all the difference in the world in sex and most other things we attempt in life.......I once read that when people make love , have sex, what ever you call it, do so as if the cameras are rolling...I guess there is something to be said about that idea. Approach sex with a "can do" attitude..Your enthusiasm will be greatly appreciated by your partner ,I`m sure of it.
Im not talking about over acting, not at all..But a certain energy you bring to sex, moaning as a form of communication,and showing your partner that what they are doing is working is a good theme to adopt.
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Wed, 10-19-2005 - 4:15pm
My Dh and I learned all we needed to know from trial and error and our own imaginations. We never watched a single porno to learn anything. Heck, half the fun is using your own imagination to figure something out and create new thrills for each other.
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Wed, 10-19-2005 - 5:15pm

I agree with you, kat. No-one NEEDS to watch porn videos to figure out how to be good in bed. I liked hump's point when he mentions enthusiasm - a willingness and openness to trying new things, and enthusiasm in bed always seem to be popular when guys are asked what makes a girl good in bed. Of course none of those things necessarily come from watching porn vids.

I think porn vids are fine for anyone that wants some entertainment and some rough ideas, just don't forget that they are primarily entertainment and are not like real life.

Don't mistake them for "How to Make Love" instructional videos. That's like saying a Rambo movie is a "What War is Really Like" instructional movie!

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Wed, 10-19-2005 - 5:26pm

Yep, enthusiasm goes both ways and needless to say, it's always a turnon to feel desired and sexy to your partner.

But I'm not sure how sexy I would feel if my DH wanted to watch a porno to get turned on enough to have sex with me though. Wouldn't make me feel quite so special.




Edited 10/19/2005 5:28 pm ET by katmandoo2001
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Fri, 10-21-2005 - 6:14am
Wife and I watch porn occasionally for entertainment, but cant say its for instruction or even arousal. We just on occasion both enjoy watching others fu*k.
BUT... it was watchinig porn, and noting my wifes reaction to a particular scene, that started our discussions about OUR attraction to 3 somes or moresomes, and how erotic she felt it would be to have more than one penis at once...
Watching porn, even though it is often very unrealistic, helped us open up and share our fabtasies, and explore them. Its too bad that porn isnt more realistic in some ways.
I have some bi curiousities, and have watcged some male bisexual activity in porn to assess my desire, and decide whether to go further. But so far all the Bi porn seems to be produced by companies already completely gay, the resulting bi sex shown has no first time hesitancy or taste, and insteas sends me home screaming hehe.

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