Does anyone else clam up when stressed

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Registered: 12-28-2007
Does anyone else clam up when stressed
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Wed, 06-25-2008 - 8:52pm

Clam up...LOL...


My clam siezes when I have something on my mind.

Missy
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Registered: 05-24-2008
Wed, 06-25-2008 - 9:16pm

It seems like you are responding to his stress by getting stressed and it has affected your sex drive.


Is there a way you can disconnect fromhis stress?

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Registered: 09-08-2007
Wed, 06-25-2008 - 9:23pm
I do too, a bit. This has been a really bad month for my DF and I, money wise. I'm really upset about whether or not any of the checks I wrote will bounce or not. Its not likely, it'd only happen if they were all deposited and went through at the same time, but the worry is still there. So I've got that, the fact that my new job at Wendy's isn't giving me enough hours to pay for anything, we are way behind on wedding planning, and all the stress of living on my own, like laundry and keeping the house clean. So yeah, these last couple of weeks have been really slow in the sex department for him and I, but talking about it and getting it all out really helps. And know that it will be temporary and things will work out if you two don't allow to tear you apart, which takes communication, patience and understanding from both sides of the relationship. Good luck and hang in there.



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Wed, 06-25-2008 - 9:59pm

My sex drive is definitely affected by stress -- especially worry. It just zaps all of my energy.

Feeling guilty is something that puts stress on you that you need to find a way to let go of. What happened to your BF is not your fault .... not being able to have him move in with you right now isn't your fault either. Hopefully he's getting things in order and taking care of himself.

Don't take the weight of the world on your shoulders here. There are many ways you can be supportive of him, but don't let his problems be your problems unless you're able to bear the weight of those problems. Sounds like right now, you're not -- and that's OKAY.



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Registered: 12-28-2007
Thu, 06-26-2008 - 5:22am

Yup, this is the same guy.

Missy
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Registered: 12-28-2007
Thu, 06-26-2008 - 5:24am

Thank you -your right about talking about it helping.


Glad I did talk with him last night.

Missy
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Registered: 05-24-2008
Thu, 06-26-2008 - 4:12pm

"And I know that he WANTS to move in with me because we talked about it."


Great news!


I guess by now your libido has kicked back into gear!


I know what you mean about wanting a guy to *want* to be with you and not with you for other reasons like convenience or feeling sorry for himself or you,etc.

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Registered: 12-28-2007
Thu, 06-26-2008 - 7:12pm

This is interesting....you should post this as a thread....


Why haven't you met in so many years?


My freakin computer is driving me nuts....It is taking forever, even to type a Letter.


I'm turning it off....But I want to know!

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