Does everybody mb?

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Registered: 10-22-2004
Does everybody mb?
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Fri, 10-22-2004 - 5:09pm

I don't mb and was wondering if I'm normal? I could never fantacize much anyhow or felt the need to mb. My husband and I have sex usually once a day, sometimes every other day, occassionally once every four days if we are busy. I enjoy sex immensely, orgasm almost always, and my libido for him is fine(I initiate almost half of the time). Am I a stranger in Paradise?

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Registered: 09-22-2004
Fri, 10-22-2004 - 5:34pm
I am one of those type of people as well. I have tried to "get myself off" but it just doesn't work, so I leave it to the pro, my bf. I even have a vibrator and that doesn't work for me either. I dont mb, my female friends don't admit to it, I just gave up on it. Oh well. :) As long as you are at least getting pleasure, from your partner, etc, then its all good. :)
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 10-22-2004 - 5:37pm
No, I don't think your strange or abnormal.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Fri, 10-22-2004 - 6:20pm
I don't think that you're abnormal. My partner and I probably average sex about 3-4 times a week and she rarely masturbates. Her libido is fine, she can easily orgasm with a vibrator or by intercourse. She just doens't feel the need to masturbate often and would prefer to have sex over masturbation when she does.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 10-22-2004 - 6:52pm

I agree with the others, you're not abnormal, you just don't feel the need.

Personally, I enjoy masturbation and I enjoy sex with my DH but they are different. One is strictly about self exploration and personal pleasure and the other is about giving AND receiving pleasure.

I've learned a lot about myself through self stimulation and I know it's made me a better lover. I think many of us have a problem with receiving pleasure or even asking for what we want, since that's not what we're taught as women.

Taking care of your own needs "gives you permission," in a sense, to enjoy your own body, not just with and through a partner but for your own benefit.