Does your SO know?

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Registered: 05-13-2007
Does your SO know?
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Wed, 05-23-2007 - 6:49pm

Many of us share very personal information on the various love and sex boards.

What I am wondering, is how many of our significant others know we are posting very intimate details about our relationships?

If they know, do they care? Do they read posts or contribute ideas?

If they don't know, why not? Is it because you have open relationships with respect to privacy of each other? Or do they not know because you think they might get mad? How do you think they would react if they found out?

I do not think my fiance knows. He knows that I frequent the message boards, and he knows that my favorites are the love and sex boards. Every now and then, if I come across something that amuses me, I will share. I suppose if he looked, he would easily see my posts, but I don't know if he ever has. He never said anything. I have gotten through several problems that I believe really HELPED our relationship through the support and advice of members here, and on some of the other love and sex boards. While I think it might upset him that I shared intimate details and specific conversation, if he read enough I hope he would realize that I respect him, and I only want to do "good" by him and our relationship, if that makes any sense.

While I have not tried hiding anything specifically, I feel a bit guilty that I haven't told him about it. If he looked on my computer, or on the boards himself, he could easily see them, but we each have our own computers and do not make it a habit to dig in each others stuff. I have accidentally come across some stuff on his computer that caught me off guard, but we discussed it and he said he has nothing to hide. I am not sure if he ever came across any of this on my computer.

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Wed, 05-23-2007 - 7:08pm

Dh knows and he doesn't care.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 05-23-2007 - 7:19pm

My DH knows that I post here & that I am a CL for this board. He doesn't have a problem with it at all. I often talk with him about stuff that is going on here, and I have asked him questions for things that I needed from a male perspective.

He also knows that I talk about our sex life on here. As Tish said, it's not like my identity is "out there" for family, friends and neighbors to see. I have also picked up a few new ideas to try from the various boards here, so he has definitely enjoyed that.

He will read a post if I point it out to him, but he doesn't have any interest in just reading the boards on his own. If he was to read my posts on here, I think it would just confirm what he already knows and feels, so it wouldn't be a problem. There are times that he might be standing near me when I'm typing, and I will close the screen. I don't like someone reading my thoughts as I type them, but once I've said my piece, he can read away!



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Registered: 10-28-2006
Wed, 05-23-2007 - 7:36pm

DH and I are very open with each other. I couldn't be on these boards
If he didn't say it was ok. I just feel that keeping secrets is not a good
idea. He doesn't care because I get a lot of tips of these boards. And then
I use them on him! He doesn't care to do much on the boards he has a couple of
times suggested a post but other then that he has nothing to do with it he is allowed
to read my emails but he doesn't and I leave his alone as well. We trust each other
not to cross the line.

Kareese

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Wed, 05-23-2007 - 11:45pm
My hubby knows and he thinks it's funny that I'm addicted to this "sex site" as he calls it.
He doesn't know everything I write on here, I don't think he really cares. Sometimes I'll ask him a question or read him a post just because. I have learned quite a few things from coming to these boards, so I know that makes him happy!
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Thu, 05-24-2007 - 9:42am

Not in a relationship right now, but when I was, my partner knew about it, and sometimes read some of the posts with me. He didn't care about my posts......we're all anonymous!

I also have friends who don't have computers, and they ask me about the boards all the time....