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does your SO know you visit here?
| Fri, 02-15-2008 - 7:43pm |
After reading a post I wondered how many here post & participate in discussions about sex & relationships and their SO does or doesn't

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hey Misty,
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yes, maybe. But i honestly don't know if i want to bother. he could be really hurt and disaprove. especially if he goes and reads all of my posts *:o*!
and I really come here to begin with to just ask my original questions, but i kept learning and then had more questions. I think it might be best for DH and I to just figure things out on our own - or with a book together, but not with other people. I'm afraid it really could be a problem in our relationship if he knew or worse - 'found out'.
Maggie, I'm sorry that you're feeling it would cause a problem to participate. I have found the boards here to be a great opportunity for personal growth in many areas of my life, not just the bedroom. Reading your posts, you clearly have an increased libido right now, and it appears that your quest here has been to learn more about ways to develop your relationship. That curiosity and desire is likely not going to go away easily. There are many people who read the boards and gather a lot of insight when reading the types of questions that you have been asking, and the replies to them.
I know you need to do what is right for you in your relationship, so I wish you the best in any decision you need to make there.
I wouldn't encourage you to be deceitful to your husband, but you might want to make a play name that isn't so easily recognizable. Keeping your graphics and things generic so they don't lend clues to your true identity. Perhaps if you tried that, you could have your hubby look at the boards with you, without fear that he would know exactly which posts were your own.
I'm not going to say that things can't happen among the members here that could be considered objectionable within many relationships, but I think the general overall nature of the boards far outweigh any harm they could cause, providing you are using them safely and within the guidelines of your own personal relationship with hubby.
Do you fear that he would have a trust issue with what you're doing here?
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yeah i know this is a hard decision to make. I totally feel like I've gotten lots of answers to things that were truly concerning me or bothering me - and I really had no where else to turn. It's not accepted to talk
I feel the same way you are feeling in many ways.
I'm sorry to hear that you've received inappropriate emails through your profile. Emails which anyone has sent to you using this mechanism are covered by the iVillage Terms Of Service, just as the contents of posts are, and you can report any that are inappropriate to a Moderator by forwarding them to 'relationshipscm@mail.ivillage.com'.
If I may...
My DH is aware that I visit ivillage but unaware that I post on the message boards.
He would not approve of my presence here. Having said that...I need neither his approval nor his permission to express myself and continue along in my path to personal growth. I have my own mind, my own thoughts and can decide for myself as to the appropriateness of my behavior.
Mrs P
Maggie, there are some people who cruise the boards here and use them inappropriately. I'm sorry that you've gotten bothered by them. You can always forward the e-mail to relationshipscm@mail.ivillage.com. The e-mail sent from member profiles is covered under the same TOS rules as are the boards. Members do not receive your e-mail addy unless you reply to their e-mail, which is also when iVillage is no longer involved in any possible violation.
Turning off your e-mail is also a good way to avoid receiving them.
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Let's Talk About Sex
~ visit my partners in the siggy exchange ~
Dealing with In-Laws ~ Renewing Your Vows
Click here to fill your Sweet Tooth!
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