does your SO know you visit here?

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Registered: 01-25-2008
does your SO know you visit here?
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Fri, 02-15-2008 - 7:43pm

After reading a post I wondered how many here post & participate in discussions about sex & relationships and their SO does or doesn't

 

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Registered: 04-11-2006
Sat, 02-16-2008 - 5:15pm

hey Misty,


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yes, maybe. But i honestly don't know if i want to bother. he could be really hurt and disaprove. especially if he goes and reads all of my posts *:o*!


and I really come here to begin with to just ask my original questions, but i kept learning and then had more questions. I think it might be best for DH and I to just figure things out on our own - or with a book together, but not with other people. I'm afraid it really could be a problem in our relationship if he knew or worse - 'found out'.


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Registered: 02-28-2006
Sat, 02-16-2008 - 5:17pm
I second everything Misty said. In the short time you've been here, you've been an asset to the boards. If you decide not to post here any more, your presence would be missed.




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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sat, 02-16-2008 - 5:31pm

Maggie, I'm sorry that you're feeling it would cause a problem to participate. I have found the boards here to be a great opportunity for personal growth in many areas of my life, not just the bedroom. Reading your posts, you clearly have an increased libido right now, and it appears that your quest here has been to learn more about ways to develop your relationship. That curiosity and desire is likely not going to go away easily. There are many people who read the boards and gather a lot of insight when reading the types of questions that you have been asking, and the replies to them.

I know you need to do what is right for you in your relationship, so I wish you the best in any decision you need to make there.

I wouldn't encourage you to be deceitful to your husband, but you might want to make a play name that isn't so easily recognizable. Keeping your graphics and things generic so they don't lend clues to your true identity. Perhaps if you tried that, you could have your hubby look at the boards with you, without fear that he would know exactly which posts were your own.

I'm not going to say that things can't happen among the members here that could be considered objectionable within many relationships, but I think the general overall nature of the boards far outweigh any harm they could cause, providing you are using them safely and within the guidelines of your own personal relationship with hubby.

Do you fear that he would have a trust issue with what you're doing here?



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Registered: 04-11-2006
Sat, 02-16-2008 - 5:48pm

yeah i know this is a hard decision to make. I totally feel like I've gotten lots of answers to things that were truly concerning me or bothering me - and I really had no where else to turn. It's not accepted to talk

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Registered: 01-25-2008
Sat, 02-16-2008 - 6:01pm

I feel the same way you are feeling in many ways.

 

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Registered: 02-28-2006
Sat, 02-16-2008 - 8:14pm
Maggie,

I'm sorry to hear that you've received inappropriate emails through your profile. Emails which anyone has sent to you using this mechanism are covered by the iVillage Terms Of Service, just as the contents of posts are, and you can report any that are inappropriate to a Moderator by forwarding them to 'relationshipscm@mail.ivillage.com'.




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Registered: 10-15-2006
Sat, 02-16-2008 - 8:40pm

If I may...


My DH is aware that I visit ivillage but unaware that I post on the message boards.


He would not approve of my presence here. Having said that...I need neither his approval nor his permission to express myself and continue along in my path to personal growth. I have my own mind, my own thoughts and can decide for myself as to the appropriateness of my behavior.

Mrs P

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Registered: 04-11-2006
Sat, 02-16-2008 - 9:27pm
thank you steve, i will keep that in mind.


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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sat, 02-16-2008 - 9:58pm

Maggie, there are some people who cruise the boards here and use them inappropriately. I'm sorry that you've gotten bothered by them. You can always forward the e-mail to relationshipscm@mail.ivillage.com. The e-mail sent from member profiles is covered under the same TOS rules as are the boards. Members do not receive your e-mail addy unless you reply to their e-mail, which is also when iVillage is no longer involved in any possible violation.

Turning off your e-mail is also a good way to avoid receiving them.



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Sat, 02-16-2008 - 11:16pm
Dh knows I post to sex boards. He wishes I didn't but he knows I need an outlet for my frustrations







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