doggie style

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doggie style
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Wed, 11-16-2005 - 1:55am
I hate the name of this sexual position but I enjoy doing it. My wife doesn't like doing it though because she says she doesn't like it when we can't face each other. I would like to know how you other women feel about this. She says if you don't face each other it's just too much about the sex and not the love. Agree or not?

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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: manunit
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 2:53am

There IS that thing about facing each other, and looking at each other, but there is ALSO something BORING about doing the same thing all the time. Variety is the spice of life, and there are compromises in good relationships.

I wouldn't want to do "doggie" all the time, but sometimes it's fun......sex doesn't always have to be SERIOUS and about passion.....sometimes it can be raw rough sex, or even fun and giggling sex.

Sex is like food! I LOVE a steak and a baked potato! But I sure wouldn't want to eat it every day of my life. I also like to eat healthy food, but sometimes a Big Mac is good, too.

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Registered: 07-22-2004
In reply to: manunit
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 4:08am

Hey manunit.

Mrs. Para & I also don't feel that same type of intimacy with that position, but sometimes just stroking that orgasm trigger no matter what the position is plenty enough intimacy in its own way regardless, lol.

So even though many of the positions out there are for the increased physical pleasure, their design alone at least helps to make up for what the more intimate positions may lack.

Facing each other doesn't always have to be THE most intimate positions for me & her every session either. She enjoys the way I grab her and hold her and enjoy her with my arms/hands just the same, if not more. She simply enjoys those fulfilling aspects we're not facing each other. Yes, that includes how she can be gripped and craved during doggie too.

For Mrs. Para and for some women, depending on how each 'chooses' to enjoy it, different positions like this one simply mean a different 'type' of intimacy whereas for others its still a different level of it. Because your wife spoke for herself and not for women in general, sounds like its just her particular way of enjoying.

 

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: manunit
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 9:00am

I enjoy doggie, not as a steady diet or not a position we want to do all the time, we like to keep variety in our sex life.


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Registered: 05-01-2003
In reply to: manunit
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 11:03am
Yes, I would agree that doggie is more about sex than love, but I find it very satisfying. I love the depth that a man can come in when he does it this way, and I don't always need to see my partner's face. Elaine
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: manunit
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 1:35pm

I had an aversion to this position for a long time as well, and I admit the name was part of it.

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Registered: 08-02-2004
In reply to: manunit
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 2:47pm
I couldn't agree with you more.
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Registered: 02-16-2005
In reply to: manunit
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 2:48pm
My exH called this position the Caveman position (Quest for Fire anyone?) lol -- maybe that sounds better than doggie for some.

My current SO and I enjoy this position very much -- along with a few other positions. It is nice to change things up some. I think love is love and sex is sex. If you really love each other, you just enjoy bringing pleasure to each other and what better way than through each other's bodies. Face to face is wonderful and a lot easier to kiss in -- lol, but both my SO and I are visual people so the other positions give us a view as well. When I know he is doubling his pleasure by watching as well as participating, then it just turns me on even more.
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Registered: 08-02-2004
In reply to: manunit
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 2:55pm
It could be the power thing like you mentioned or at least part of it. What I find funny is that when we do the normal missionary style position, she shut her eyes most of the time anyway. So, what difference does it make? I just like to have variety like the other posters have mentioned and I also like the feeling this position provides me. It really doesn't have much to do with power for me, but just sensation. But I have done this position when I can also see myself doing it in a mirror and like the visual affect of it.
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Registered: 08-02-2004
In reply to: manunit
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 2:57pm
I certainly agree with you. I was just wondering if I was alone on this or what. Sounds like I'm not.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: manunit
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 5:15pm

I think there's a time for love and a time for sex and a time for love AND sex, namely making love. And I love all three but I would get bored if I only had one of the three all the time.

Doggy is all about the sensations and NOT looking into your partner's eyes allows you to enjoy those sensations more selfishly, IMO. Nothing wrong with that. Not as a steady diet but as an occasional delicious snack.

Sometimes I just want sex, not lovemaking and it's the same with my DH.

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