doggie style and anal bleaching

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Registered: 07-05-2005
doggie style and anal bleaching
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Mon, 12-12-2005 - 10:01pm
so... my boyfriend asked me if i would get my ass bleached. He even offered to pay for it. I asked him why?. and he first said that porn stars do, and then said that when he hits me from behind, he does'nt like looking at my ass. but frankly, ITS MY ASS! why does it matter? he says that he loves me, and I love him too, but it really hurt me that the color of my ass matters to him. Is this normal? Should i be offended? he has his flaws, but i do not comment about them, I love him for who he his, flaws and all... why can't he be the same way?

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Mon, 12-12-2005 - 11:31pm

My answer to him would be "if it offends you, don't GO there!" Who cares if porn stars do it? Maybe he ought to watch less porn and get in touch with reality! Tell him that male porn stars have had some "enhancements" and maybe he should do the same. See how HE likes to be compared to porn stars!

If he cares about you, he'll care about you, and won't expect you to change for him. If you do it for him, what will he ask you to do next? As you said, there are things about him that bother you, but because you care about him, you accept him, "warts" and all. If he can't do the same for you, I'd say this is a very one-sided relationship.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 12:13am
I would sriously question his love for you. A guy who really loves you would NOT want to ask you to go through whatever that bleaching process is. His comments are very degrading, wanting you to have an ass like a porn star. Good luck on handling this subject with him.
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 12:17am

OK, I have to ask, what is ass bleaching?

I thought that I'd just about heard it all.

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Registered: 08-12-2002
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 5:40am
As people age, the skin around their anus darkens. Anal bleaching involves chemically bleaching that skin to a lighter shade, thereby making it look "younger", and the same colour as the surrounding buttocks etc.

 


 


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Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 8:00am

I would be offended!


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Tue, 12-13-2005 - 8:28am

See that Westie, you're never too old to learn something new!


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Registered: 07-26-2005
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 9:02am

There was an "item" about it on some TV show, maybe Oprah, maybe a "plastic surgery" program, I can't really remember.

It is literally what it says.......I think every human being has an area around their anus that is a darker brown color. Imagine being on your knees with your butt in the air, and someone applying a paste bleach! That's it. It's for freaky women who want "perfection", and I guess freaky guys who want their woman to look like a porn star. It's taking the Brazilian wax to the next level! Pathetic.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 10:22am

Looks like his being shallow is just another thing you'll have to love him in spite of! I have never heard of such a suggestion.

And yes, you should be offended....most women would be, I suspect.

I would second dakine's suggestion to stop allowing him to "go there," then he won't be forced to look at it. Quick and easiest solution.

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Registered: 08-12-2004
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 11:27am
I'd tell him when he can produce a "John Holmes" penis with porn stamina...then you'll consider it.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 2:20pm

Oh no. There is no limit to the bizarre and self-obsessed expectations people can have of their partners.

My answer to such a request would be "You first, BabyCakes. You first." After all, it's likely that HIS anus, penis, scrotum, etc. has probably darkened as well. Ewwwww.

Bleaching anything, cloth, skin, etc., will dry out and potentially weaken. Not a good idea to do that to an anus.

Since when has a normal process of sexual maturing become such a negative?

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