Doggiestyle from a women's view

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Doggiestyle from a women's view
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Sun, 03-26-2006 - 7:55am

I have a questions regarding the doggiestyle position (the women is on her hands and knees while the man is behind)

As a guy, I love it. I think most guys do. There is something animalistic about it that drives us wild.

However, I recently read somewhere that many women feel differently. To them, doggystyle is impersonal (no eye contact) and even slightly degrading. While us guys get a very erotic view of the action, women are stuck looking at the floor or the wall.

I would love to hear your opinions on this.

How do you and your partner feel about doggiestyle?

Do you think many more men than women favor this position?

From a woman's point of view, how does doggie compare to other positions? What are its pros and cons?

Thanks!

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Sun, 03-26-2006 - 9:49am

When I'm in that position, I keep my eyes closed and concentrate on the feeling. Since there's nothing "visual" to bring me to the edge, I just use my imagination--I fantasize. I fantasize about what we just did(or something in the past) or about giving him oral at the same time(probably some sub-conscious "cleaning up" of the threesome fantasy). Since I don't have the visuals, I have to provide them, even if it's visualizing what I'm actually feeling.

I can see how some women may think he's doing the same--fantasizing. "Does he prefer this position so that he can fantasize about being with another woman?" It may make them feel as though he's just using her body. Of course, there are other benefits to this position for him, the visuals, the sensations, as well as for her--but it's still less personal than missionary. But the bottom line is that you can't ever know what anyone is thinking during sex; and some experts say that it's very normal to think about others--whatever gets you there is good--it's all good. Still.....

I think that if that was the only way that he preferred to have sex, it might pose a problem. I never gave it a thought because my husband prefers face-to-face sex. He loves to kiss(which I love to do also).

And, as an aside, I think that sex can be just as animalistic in any position. Our kisses aren't always slow and romantic.....they're very sexual. I think the connotation of sex is whatever you both happen to be feeling at the time. Sometimes you feel like making love, and sometimes you just want to have raw sex. I don't think that position determines that. Even various versions of doggie can be quite romantic(spooning comes to mind with lots of "connection"); or he can be romantically kissing your neck and back during slow doggie as well as whispering sweet nothings in your ear at the same time.

In reality though, I don't think that anyone is that insecure. As I said there are many physical and visual reasons why a man would love it(and a woman, as well), however, I can see if he doesn't "love" the other "visuals" of face-to-face sex, how it may become an issue for some women.




Edited 3/26/2006 8:26 pm ET by rain_dancer_iam
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Sun, 03-26-2006 - 10:05am

We both enjoy doggie style.


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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 1:02am

I think doggiestyle is very exciting and don't find it degrading at all. It's not a very romantic position though so I think there is a time and place for it.

For the most part, BF and I tend to have very intense-intimate "sessions" and doggiestyle just doesn't seem to fit with the situation. However when we do switch things up (which is not often enough for me), doggiestyle is probably my favorite position.

Things are probably reverse in our case in that my BF seems to feel bad about the position as if he is being disrespectful to me.

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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 1:23am

The first time we tried doggie style it was very erotic and I always visualize that moment in my head. He was doing my dishes and I was teasing him with my hands until he finished. Then it was basically a race to the bedroom, stripping clothes off along the way, being thrown against the door (poor door never functioned the same after that), and then finally collapsing onto the floor just going at it until we both collapsed. From that point on, I love doggie style and dont find it degrading at all. He was so turned on by my teasing and such that he just took control and then lost control.

I think it has a time and place, just like any other position. If thats all we ever did, I think it would be a problem. But since its just another position for us, its one of our favorites.

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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 9:09am

I love doggy style but I can understand why other women might feel it's impersonal, etc. though. Anyone might if that's the only position ever used or if he used porn right before or called out some other woman's name during it! It's all in HOW it's used, as with any position, as Rain pointed out.

If my partner insisted on doggy style EVERY time-and he was someone I was unsure of or a new partner-I wouldn't want to use this position as a steady diet either. But as a position, it's very enjoyable and exciting.

And when it's done right, I'm not stuck "looking" at anything but deep in my own pleasure, my eyes are closed concentrating on my sensations. However I CAN see my DH's face if I position myself in front of a mirror. And if I get tired, we switch positions.

But for me, sex doesn't ALWAYS have to be about making love. It CAN be about animalistic, erotic pleasure.




Edited 3/27/2006 10:22 am ET by katmandoo2001
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 9:59am
it is my ABSOLUTE favorite!
all you need is a mirror(which lucky for me my headboard on my bed has one) to 're-connect' visually with your partner....my SO loves to watch himself, and i love to watch him watch himself!
doggie style, for me anyway, hits everything that needs to be hit.......we recently found that if we lay flat the feeling is even better.
im sure some women prefer the direct eye contact, the closeness....i like the orgasam myself! ;)
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:05am
IMO, doggie is only fun when looking in the mirror. It's not my favorite position because of the angle. I feel like that scene in Alien when the whatchamacallit is about to burst out of that guy's stomach. But, on camera or in a mirror it's kind of pretty to watch.