Dominate ME!.. No,.. dominate, ME!!!
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| Wed, 09-06-2006 - 2:36am |
My husband and I, married under ten years now seem to be growing strangely apart sexually, and it has me so concerned.
He makes comments about finding older women 'hot' *which I realize IS normal ;) , and has shared fantasies about being dominated, etc., which I find a total turn off..
Over the past couple of years I have developed an intense attraction to older men.
I find myself fantasizing about an older, more confident partner that will take control.
Its absolutely agonizing to see this drifting apart we're going through. No way am I blaming him, because I seem to be wanting the same thing!
I find his interest in being dominated such a turn off, and he probably feels the same way about my desire as well.
I do take control every now and then, not spanking or tying him up, but I will get rough and assertive with him, for instance just last evening I did so, stripping down to a garter belt, thong, thigh highs and heels... Then pinning his arms down while I teased his body with my tongue and lips, and then gave him a nice, long tantalizing blow job. While he of course seemed to enjoy it, he still did make a remark today about wanting to have an older woman, and his general sexual position is just alway so passive and submissive.
I am growing frustrated with feeling inadequate (young, pretty blonde just doesn't measure up age wise), and on the other hand, I am not that attracted to him because of my similar desire to be with someone more assertive, older, etc. I have NOT shared this with him, as I'm afraid it will shatter his ego. I'd feel terrible telling him that he's 'just not manly enough'.
Can anyone lend some advice?
Thank you :)
| Wed, 09-06-2006 - 9:45am |
