Dont know what this means?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-27-2007
Dont know what this means?
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Mon, 12-10-2007 - 4:47pm

Hey all ok so here it goes.

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Mon, 12-10-2007 - 5:31pm

Hi there!


I can only give you my honest opinion on how to deal with your situation if I were you. I would tell him what you just told us here. If you want to explore the possibilites of a long term relationship start right away with NO GAMES!! Communication is key. Learn how to work together and honestly communicate with each other on everything that involves the two of you.


Only can offer this because it has worked well for me and dh, we have been together for 28 years. Good luck!

***Liv***




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Registered: 09-27-2007
Mon, 12-10-2007 - 6:24pm

Thanks for your suggestion.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 12-10-2007 - 9:05pm

Welcome to the board, myjuly.

I think the word "lover" has a lot of different meanings. While a "booty call" might be one of them, it's certainly not the only one. I often use the word lover to describe people I have had sex with, even if it was a long term relationship.

If he says he would like to "work things out with you", then it sounds like he is also interested in seeing if the two of you have a future of any kind as a couple. Since it sounds like you are also interested in that, then it's in your best interest to let him know how you feel.

As Liv said, honest communication is important in a relationship. You don't have anything to lose by asking him to clarify what he's saying.





iVillage Member
Registered: 09-27-2007
Tue, 12-11-2007 - 1:13pm

Thanks for your advice.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2007
Tue, 12-11-2007 - 1:43pm
It sounds like you're changing what you want from the relationship. If you don't want to be just a booty call, then you're either going to have to make that clear to him or back away from the situation for a while until you can figure it out.