double protection

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Registered: 01-10-2007
double protection
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Tue, 05-29-2007 - 11:16am
I've got a new guy and we've fooled around but have not yet slept together. I'm wondering how he's going to handle the fact that I prefer to use a condom even though I am on the pill (I occasionally miss a pill or take it too late, and sometimes even when I do it right my period comes early and so I don't completely trust it). I'd rather be overly safe but I know how some guys can be about condoms. Has anyone ever found themselves in this position?
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Registered: 03-08-2004
In reply to: azure84
Tue, 05-29-2007 - 11:38am

Since this is a new guy, it's wise to use condoms until you have both been tested and tested again

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In reply to: azure84
Tue, 05-29-2007 - 11:38am
Just bring it up with him ahead of time. Most guys are going to be fine with it. If he doesn't respect you enough to put one on, then he's probably not somebody you want to be with anyway.
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Registered: 04-27-2006
In reply to: azure84
Tue, 05-29-2007 - 12:36pm
Actually I'd recommend using only condoms as they are more foolproof than oral contraceptives and there are no side effects from them. My girlfriend and I use condoms every time we have intercourse and have never had a problem with them.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: azure84
Tue, 05-29-2007 - 1:08pm

Welcome to the board azure84.

I think it's responsible to use condoms to avoid the spread of STDs, so he should be fine with it. If your relationship turns out to be a long term deal, then you can both be tested and plan accordingly.



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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: azure84
Tue, 05-29-2007 - 1:54pm

Aside from the risk of pregnancy......as everyone has mentioned, how about STD's? IF he is not willing to use one....then you can bet he's been with others and not used them...so you're risking all kinds of infections. (Most STD's don't have early symptoms, and many of them give men NO symptoms.....so just looking, or asking does NOT prove that he has nothing.)

If he says no, then you should say Adios......because he's said no to others, too. Until both of you are tested, and retested in 6 months, I'd worry more about the STD's than double protection for pregnancy.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
In reply to: azure84
Tue, 05-29-2007 - 4:30pm
For the first 3 1/2 years that my husband and I were together I was on the pill and I always made him wear a condom. I am now off the pill but we still use condoms.
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Registered: 08-11-2004
In reply to: azure84
Tue, 05-29-2007 - 7:18pm
You really should use condoms, especially if you sometimes miss pills since that lowers the effectiveness. If you miss or you're late, to be safe you should always use a backup method for 7 days afterwards. At the very least, before stopping condoms, you should have a conversation with the new guy about what the two of you would do if you become pregnant. That may well inspire him to wear them.
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Registered: 01-10-2007
In reply to: azure84
Wed, 05-30-2007 - 9:54am
These are all very good points, thanks everyone. I feel more prepared to state my case if he even questions me. Thanks for the reassurance!