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Double standards
| Fri, 05-21-2004 - 2:46pm |
Because of the responces to this comment about double standards between men and women, I figured I would start a thread on it.
Do you believe a double standard exists about sexuality of men and women?
What do you feel is the cause of this double standard?
Would you find it harder to believe a man or a woman who cried Rape??? (for your benefit Tish. He He)
And last, if your mate complained that you were not doing something that they really enjoyed, how much of your own opinion on it would you bring to the conversation, and would you expect your partner to give up something they really liked because you didn't??
Any other comments/questions are welcome. I don't like the double standards in sexuality but I have no choice but to accept them as they are.

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I worked hard at saving money by constantly repairing, painting, refinishing, the home and buying old furniture, restoring it, and selling it. I would cut coupons, shop for bargains, and prepare inexpensive meals. I'd buy clothing at the thriftshop, not because we couldn't afford newer, but because it seemed practical. My DH was once a haircutter and taught me how to cut hair. I cut everyones hair in my immediate and extended family--and friends' hair too. I left a good career when I decided to stay at home, but I ventured into a new one years ago. I worked prior to having children and paid for half of the house that I live in right now. We sacrificed to pay for it in three years before deciding to have children. I now have my own business, and I don't get anymore respect than when I didn't work from my DH, he always valued me. I may not have earned money, but I sure saved a hellova lot. I'm truly a jack of all trades, and a master of quite a few! tee hee
Also, while I was home, I often took care of my WORKING friend's children for free during the summer and vacations to help them out. Vacations and days off equal almost two months(I actually tallied it up one year) off out of a school year, plus two months off of summer. What exactly was I to do with my children while I was at work, four months out of the year? The thought of leaving them alone all summer long, was not appetizing.
DH and I work as a team to accomplish what we both felt was the most important role in our lives. It paid off, because we're doing quite well now. We even paid for our children's education, own our own home, and have no debts. I still can't shake the coupon cutting, though. ;-) If I had to do it all over again, I still wouldn't have changed a thing. I loved being there for them, no matter what hat I was wearing. My DH and I mutually respect each other for each of our contributions.
Edited 5/25/2004 3:55 pm ET ET by free_to_choose
And you do realize that we already have female fighter pilots, don't you? What about nurses who were just off the front lines, who received those boys who were missing legs, etc.? You don't think that's traumatic?
I think you tend to underestimate the contribution and abilities of women to do the jobs they need to do....even when it's not a "traditional" one. What some of us may lack in upper body strength and size, we more than make up in brain power.
War has changed. It's fought from afar most of the time instead of hand to hand and that means that more and more women will be participating. I think if the woman can do the job, then she should have the opportunity to do it. And if she does it well, she should be congratulated for it.
And sorry, as a parent, seeing a son dying would be just as traumatic as seeing a daughter...there would be absolutely no difference to me.
Edited 5/25/2004 5:49 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
I think you are taking what she says too personally. She said she feels that way about herself, not others. She is afraid that she won't get respect, not that others don't deserve it.
Leticia
Notice the word "their" ;-)
Leticia
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