Drugs have taken a toll in my life...
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| Fri, 01-21-2005 - 2:34am |
My man is a drug addict. So am I. He wants to change... so do I. But it's very hard. I never pay for the drugs... he does. And when it's around, it hard to resist. The other day, his drug dealer asked him to drive him somewhere & that if my man did, the drug dealer would hook him up. He didn't want to, but I added, "If you don't want to take him, I will." He looked at me with disbelief and said, "You're a bad influence." I looked down at the ground and said, "I know I am." What can I do? He doesn't want me doing drugs- he wants me to stop. He said, "I thought you said you were going to change-- you're not going to change." I want him to change, as well. I am tired of living this way. I noticed that when he's off the drugs and doesn't have any, he is in a bad mood & gets angry real easily. Please help us!!!

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Most rehab specialists will advise removing oneself from negative environments AND people who can hinder the recovery process, at least temporarily. It IS about changing one's life, after all!
IF they can have a relationship that isn't based on a mutual addiction, then they may have a chance, but it's not a given by any means. If drugs defined their relationship from the beginning, then it's unhealthy and better for both of them to let it go.
And since it's obvious that this poster hasn't had any luck sticking to her own decision to get clean while she's with her BF, and seems too dependent on him, it would be even more advisable.
You have to want it for yourself, you can't do it for anyone else, as much as the OP may want to help her BF, she has to concentrate on herself now. And she'll need encouragement and support from HEALTHY people, not fellow addicts during this time.
Edited 1/25/2005 12:19 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
wow..
well good luck trying to do that on your own
she def. needs some rehab.
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