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| Sat, 05-15-2004 - 12:28am |
I often read threads about men who orgasm too quickly during intercourse.
| Sat, 05-15-2004 - 12:28am |
I often read threads about men who orgasm too quickly during intercourse.
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I think that's the key here, and why continuing something that is so powerful and exhausting is not really desirable. You must be aware, however, that every woman is different and many women do not have "explosive (short, sharp, and powerful)" orgasms . This is why so many talk about needing lots of stimulation before intercourse and a reasonable amount of time during intercourse. Also I have heard few women describe their orgasms as "exhausting". My DF certainly is not exhausted, even after a dozen or more , but then hers are not nearly as explosive as yours. I guess you have to adapt your lovemaking to your orgasmic pattern and it sounds like you and your DH have since you both can have quick and powerful orgasms that you don't particularly want to repeat. My DF can orgasm quite quickly, too, but she really enjoys having many orgasms while I'm getting to mine. This is probably why she prefers intercourse so much and why we are so perfectly suited to each other.
taoist
>>This is why so many talk about needing lots of stimulation before intercourse and a reasonable amount of time during intercourse. <<
Well, I'm always the first one to say "have more foreplay
CL-Yasmin1967
May I have the serenity to accept what I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I
(BTW, thanx 4 the welcome back)
I think I'm confused by your question. When you actually note the 'times' it "normally" takes men to endure intercourse until orgasm, are you referring to constant thrusting or no???
Mrs. & I had found ways for me to go longer, believe it or not. When we first started out, it was just a matter of getting to know each other and even ourselves better. We discovered that the is MUCH much much more to our liking than the "normal" thrusting we consistently read about.
Wouldn't something like that make a difference? I say this 'outside' my (every now and then) priapism symptoms of course. So wouldn't the grinding and slowing down and enjoying other parts of sex make a difference as opposed to thrusting from start of intercourse to finish?
I'm not saying this is the case, I'm asking. Make sense? Before I go any further, I think I'd rather hear some thoughts first.
(No I haven't read other posts yet, but hopefully I'll get to before returning to work)
One more thing, I think we men should be asking you 'women' if us being natural isn't good enough anymore, don't you think? LOL!!! More times than not, according to what we've read, even if foreplay was very long and perfect, there are STILL issues with how "little" intercourse lasts...have I read wrong on that?
I'm still learning...no shame. ;}
C H A R A C T E R
I think you've hit on something, Para. I've read that the "deep grinding" you're talking about , which I interpret as short, deep thrusts, is much better for the woman because it gives her more opportunity for indirect clitoral stimulation and a better vaginal massage. That kind of thrusting also would probably stimulate the man somewhat less than long, deep strokes and help him last longer. Better all around!
>>One more thing, I think we men should be asking you 'women' if us being natural isn't good enough anymore, don't you think? LOL!!! More times than not, according to what we've read, even if foreplay was very long and perfect, there are STILL issues with how "little" intercourse lasts...have I read wrong on that?
I'm still learning...no shame. ;}<<
Much of what we know about good sex is learned. If we were just "natural" , it would just be caveman in and out til he ejaculates. What is so natural about oral or digital stimulation of a woman's clitoris? Men and have to learn how to do that and how to do it right. What's so natural about a BJ? All that has to be learned. . Why can't they learn to slow down their intercourse in order to more pleasure their woman ( IF that's what she desires, Yasmin)?
>>One more thing, I think we men should be asking you 'women' if us being natural isn't good enough anymore, don't you think? LOL!!! <<
Was I out of place asking this question of behalf of men?
CL-Yasmin1967
May I have the serenity to accept what I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I
>>Much of what we know about good sex is learned. If we were just "natural" , it would just be caveman in and out til he ejaculates. What is so natural about oral or digital stimulation of a woman's clitoris? Men and have to learn how to do that and how to do it right. What's so natural about a BJ? All that has to be learned. . Why can't they learn to slow down their intercourse in order to more pleasure their woman ( IF that's what she desires, Yasmin)? <<
I think some of the comparisons you are making are like putting apples next to oranges.
CL-Yasmin1967
May I have the serenity to accept what I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I
If we say that all men (who's partners want longer sex) should be happy to learn prolonging techniques from text books, then we would have to also say that a caring woman should be happy to learn something difficult (such as learning to hurry up her orgasms/deep throat/anal sex) to please her partner. Yes?
Now, to be perfectly honest, I've very happy not knowing how to deep throat - even though my DH may like me to - and no, I've never asked because I have no intention of learning. If a man accepts a woman as she is, then should she not accept him how he is? Including his limitations.<<
Now, I think you're comparing apples and oranges. Prolonging intercourse makes the man's pleasure last longer,too, and I think many couples have learned to do this through simple sharing by partners. I don't think that compares in any way to anal sex or deep throating.
I don't understand why you are so negative about "techniques from text books". I don't see those as being much different from articles on ivillage or information from other websites. It's all about gaining knowledge. Even message boards like this one are part of that process. I do admit, though, that while the books, articles, and websites tend to have generalized , "theoretical" information from "experts", these message boards fill a very important need by involving people in discussing their personal experiences so we can learn how this works for the average person.
taoist
Edited 5/18/2004 10:44 pm ET ET by taoistnovice
Oh sure. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy that too. I still think that most guys, most of the time will happily orgasm quickly if left to themselves. For example, solo masturbation for guys: The end result is an orgasm. I doubt many guys spend ages building up to the orgasm and just get it done fairly quickly.
Likewise with the intercourse. Foreplay is a bit different. Plenty of guys seem to like that. The orgasm is seen as the goal again though. I think that most guys, most of the time are happy to speed towards the finish line during intercourse. No doubt most guys like to take their time some times and slowly build towards orgasm. I have a feeling thats probably the exception, not the norm.
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