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| Wed, 06-20-2007 - 8:55am |
My husband and i were having sex last night then all of a sudden he went limp. he said it wasnt me but then i am thinking it is or who wouldnt . After that he held me and said t wasnt me . Then like in the middle of the night when I was asleep he like hopped back on and wastrying again and the same thing happened. I thinking so many things right now. makes me worried! Any thoughts would help. has this happened to anyone before?

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Welcome to the board trixiemom2006.
I know it can be difficult, but relax. Chances are, it isn't about you at all. Most guys will experience some for of Erectile Dysfunction (ED) at some point in their life. It can be brought on by either medical or psychological causes, as well as a combination of both.
Stress can often be a HUGE factor, and if he feels pressured to perform for you, it will most likely make it worse. The fear that it will happen is also often enough to cause it to happen.
Here are some articles that you might find helpful:
How Stuff Works: Erectile Dysfunction
http://health.howstuffworks.com/how-erectile-dysfunction-works2.htm
Wikipedia: Erectile Dysfunction
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erectile_dysfunction
Net Doctor: Impotence
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/diseases/facts/impotence.htm
Medicine Net: Causes of Impotence
http://www.medicinenet.com/impotence_ed/page2.htm#cause
Mayo Clinic: Erectile Dysfunction
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/erectile-dysfunction/DS00162/DSECTION=3
iVillage Total Health: Erectile Dysfunction Affects 18 Million US Men
http://health.ivillage.com/di/dinews/0,,wbnews_b6skrsst,00.html
I know that's a lot of articles, but I think it will reassure you to take a look at them. If the two of you can't pinpoint a reason why this might be happening, he really should see his doctor. Often, ED is a sign of other serious health problems. Medications are also available to help if needed.
my partner in the siggy exchange
There's not a man alive that hasn't lost an erection, more than one time. There could be lots of reasons for that happening, the LEAST of which has anything to do with you. You don't control his erections....his body and his brain control it. Being very tired, or being stressed out at work, or at home can cause it.
How long since he's had a good physical? There are lots of things that can cause erection difficulties (but I wouldn't be worried about it happening TWICE, only if it continues to happen)such as high blood pressure, depression, diabetes, prostate problems, etc. If he hasn't seen a doctor in a long time, he can have any one of these problems, and not even know it. There are also medications that can cause problems, such as antidepressants.
IF it happens again, and more than a few times, then get your husband to a doctor for a good check up. He could have any one of the above mentioned things wrong with him, and if they're not treated, he could have more serious problems than ED!
If you don't make a big deal out of it, chances are it won't happen again, but again, if it does, then he should see a doctor. If he has nothing physically wrong with him, then it's from emotional causes.....like stress or depression. Then he needs to figure out what it is that's bothering him. It can be worked out. Just don't let your imagination run away with you. This isn't about you, it's about him.
Is he taking any new medication?
What about stress any thing new there?
One time we had problems and it was his new meds
I made him throw them away. And the problem went with it!
Stress could sure do it. I know sometimes for me it just messes it all
up! No matter how much I try to relax or how aroused dh trys to get me.
Do you think it could be a medical problem? Don't stress about it. I would
see if it happens again and ask him if it does why he thinks it's happening.
Kareese
Actually this just happened between Dh and I the other day. I am unsure of the reasons why it happens but you are definately not alone!!
~momma~
As Sakura said, it happens to all men at times.
Thanks girl..your advice is wonderful and greatly appreciated. I have gone dry in the middle of a session before and I know it is normal. Thanks so much!!
~momma~
Welcome to the board thechiefxx.
You're correct, erectile dysfunction can be a sign of a medical problem. If it is a medical problem, it is going to continue to happen, not just be a one time or once in a blue moon event.
Anyone who has the problem frequently should see a medical doctor about it.
my partner in the siggy exchange
It has happened more frequently with Dh...should I tell him to consider seeing the doctor?
~momma~
Is there anything else that you can pinpoint as a problem? Being tired, stressed, having frequent sex -- all of those things can contribute to the problem.
If it is happening often, I think it's worth mentioning. The doctor can at least check him for some of the more common medical causes, just to rule things out if nothing else.
my partner in the siggy exchange
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