during sex.. HELP
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| Thu, 06-28-2007 - 2:25pm |
me & my boyfriend of 2 years..are experiancing an issue thats been going on lately. (past 4 times weve had sex) during sex..its just boring after he cant get "it" up anymore. (in the beginning) sex is great & he`s rock hard and we enjoy it together. im usually ALWAYS on top. and we do good about switching into diff. positions together. but when i am on top (after about 10-15 mins of sex) and he pulls out he gets soft very very quickly. i dont even think he has an orgasm unless he does and i not know it. then he just gets tired, lazy & gets an attitude with me. when im 100% aroused and ready for another round.. so its like.. boring (im laying there waiting for him) and he doesnt move. then all i want to do is get up and leave, but at the same time i dont because i love him..but he wont tell me anything thats wrong he just shows it..but then once im ready to leave he grabs me & kisses me and tells me he loves me & doesnt want me to leave.. im like.. "what?" i dont understand him. sounds like more other issues huh...? but im mostly concerned about our sex life thats making me want to not have sex with him anymore, or 'cheat' i dont want too.. i really dont & never have but i have needs and ive never had an orgasm or really a good outcome of sex with him.
its so hard...& i love him very very very much.
what should i do..say???

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misty mae.. i orgasm every single time i masturbate. he doesnt know i do because i havent ever told him that i do either one.
im going to look into them..ive seen alot & im learning alot. jus by what you guys are telling me. im over-reacting as 'usual' but we talked about sex lastnight & hopefully next time we have sex it will be a differant outcome..as far as both of our 'needs' to pleasure eachother
Since you orgasm when you masturbate then show him or tell him what you need, what kind of touch, pressure, fast, slow, whatever it is that gets you off, you have to let him know.
i just got 'used' to rubbing & massaging him 'down there' ive never done that to no other man ive had sex with..he likes when i do that alot..im slowly doing things ive never done, or said i would never do...
You've gotten some great advice here, but I really have to second what Tish said in her last post. After 2 years together, you should feel comfortable communicating with him.
I didn't realize that you had sex with previous men. If you don't mind me asking, why were you with him for two years before your relationship turned sexual?
my partner in the siggy exchange
but i guess because we both had alot going on..we both wanted too (weve told eachother that) but i guess he didnt want to seem pushy, neither did i... its weird. but im glad we waited.. our relationship wasnt based on just sex. now it is..its more excititng...lol
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