This is the e-mail I sent him...
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| Thu, 05-10-2007 - 11:22am |
Tell me if it's too much! And just s everyone knows. He disappeared while talking to me yesterday and hasn't been back online since. He is a lawyer so it could be his work but who knows!!
"I'm assuming the worst and guessing that we aren't talking anymore.You blew me off yesterday and we haven't talked since. So I guess either you got in trouble or you just don't want to talk to me. Whatever if fine i guess. It's probably best we don't talk. I have a family and you have a soon to be wife. I think we got carried away anyways and i can't live every day wondering if DH is going to leave me because I'm talking to you about things we have no business discussing. So I really don't know what else to say. I hope everything on your end is ok. As for me who knows. I've already said to much to you and unless we can just talk on friends would we probably just shouldn't talk at all. I don't know if you'll get this message or even if you'll respond but that's cool. It was fun talking to you and learning from you. I hope you and your SO have a wonderful life and a beautiful family. i wish you both the best. If you do comment on this I'll respect whatever you have to say. I've been up for awhile and I'm tired. I am not going to wait anymore. I'll talk to you soon I guess. If not then whatever. I don't know what to say! All I know is that my husband and kids are my life and I hate to think that I could have jeapordized that by talking to you, I'm not one to hurt feelings but I'd rather say goodbye to you then say farewell to a loving marriage. I hope you don't take all this the wrong way and if you do then you're not the person you acted like or claimed to be when we spoke. I'll miss talking to you. It was fun!!
Always,
Erika
P.S.--I just wish I knew what made you disappear??"
I'm sorry it's long. Tell me what you think.

Good for you, Erika!
That was just
Wow.
It's wierd, I've a couple of guys just do dark, for no apparent reason, for good. Really creeped me out.
Erika,
I did see this, but I have a meeting... I will respond later... overall, it was fine... just would have suggested that you be a little bit firmer... and taken out the back and forth kind of stuff...
on the one hand, several parts indicated that
Ok, I read this after my last post to you, and it verifies what I thought. It was an on-line situation.
You did the right thing. As some of the others said, there were some things in there that I might have changed or eliminated, but you said what you had to say, good for you.
What I didn't like was that you said enough to try to "shame him" into replying again, and that's not what you need or want. You want to be finished with him!
Now, complete the job by blocking him from your computer! Make sure you tell your husband that you're not talking to him anymore, too. If you feel the urge to have someone to talk to, then visit message boards like this, and you can make "friends" that don't have ulterior motives.
Since you already sent it, it's too late and I would NOT send another.
I was basically going to add pretty much what both Sakura and Tish said!
I think what you said was great. Although I would quit worrying about why
he disappeared. Just let the doors close and lock them up! Don't give it any
chance to resurface. You made the right choice. Tangency gave you some great input
take it and run with it! I wish you and your family the best.
Kareese