Embarrasing Orgasms

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Embarrasing Orgasms
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Fri, 04-28-2006 - 11:29am
I am a 33 year old, sexually active female. I’ve always enjoyed sex and orgasms are like the best feeling in the world to me. But something has happened to my body since I have been dating my current boyfriend. My orgasms have changed. In the past, with other partners, I have been able to control my orgasms, and when I have one, it’s like the muscles in my vagina contract and there is a minimal amount of discharge. But now with my new bf, and we’ve been dating for about a year… it’s like he hits something up in me that unloads this god awful amount of “liquid”. The first time it happened, I thought I urinated on myself, but I know I didn’t. Although it feels great, what worries me is that I can’t control it. He knows just the position to put me in to make me “cum”, and it’s very messy, leaving the sheets and bed soaking wet. It feels great and he seems to love it, but it’s very embarrassing. And out of my 33 years of living, this is something that just started with him. I guess what I want to know is has anyone ever experienced this and how common is it? I feel so weird!

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Avatar for ukgirl82
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Fri, 04-28-2006 - 12:02pm

Read up on female ejaculation. Many people who don't know about it assume that it is urine because it comes from the urethra and many women feel as though they're going to urinate just before they ejaculate but it's NOT urine. It usually occurs when your Gspot is being stimulated.

You can read about it here: http://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/ejacula.htm
or do a search on google for "Female Ejaculation" and you'll get tons of information.




Edited 4/28/2006 12:02 pm ET by ukgirl82
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Fri, 04-28-2006 - 1:18pm
OMG cherish it dear!!!
It is FE and there are women that go there entire lives and never get to enjoy it.
My GF does this, and it's the biggest turn on for me. I love it. It doesn't happen all the time, seems only when we're really fired up and into it hot and heavy.
There are porn films and sites dedicated to women squirting. Men seek this.
Consider yourself a lucky one and put a towel down if you need to.
It's AWSOME!!!!
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Fri, 04-28-2006 - 1:55pm

Why question it and why try to "control" it though? Lay down some heavy duty towels next time and just enjoy it.

Some women ejaculate and some don't but an orgasm is an orgasm and we all have our own unique ones.

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Fri, 04-28-2006 - 3:44pm

Yep, you're ejaculating. He's getting your "g" spot which is usually what makes it happen. And yes, many guys LOVE it.....(their ego, you know!) There are probably some men, as well as many women who don't know about it....and like you, they might think it's urine, but if you read the info at www.the-clitoris.com you'll know it's not, and he knows it's not, and there is NOTHING to be embarassed about.

As for the bed, forget towels, they're worthless. Like you.....it happened to me for the first time with my current partner.....and even though HE loves it and I love it, I was SICK of having a soaked bed.....thru the sheets, the mattress pad and even the mattress itself.... I got some washable incontinence pads, and if we can manage to stay ON them, it saves stripping the bed. Occasionally we miss, and the bed has to be changed immediately, there is no way anyone could sleep on it that way. You can get disposable ones, but that becomes expensive, and they're noisy, lol The washable ones can be bought at medical supply places. Not cheap, but they last forever. They're about 3x4 feet, and we use three of them to cover as much of the bed as possible.

Enjoy it.....lots of women would love to experience it.

PS: FE isn't an orgasm, it can happen with OR without an orgasm. Two different things.




Edited 4/28/2006 3:46 pm ET by dakine001
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Fri, 04-28-2006 - 4:15pm
Well, thanks for all the info, but my question now is... Why did it take so long for me to do this? Have I had the wrong partner all these years?
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Fri, 04-28-2006 - 4:39pm
Wrong partner? No, not necessarily. Probably has less to do with him and more to do with your own maturity and willingness to really let yourself go now.
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Fri, 04-28-2006 - 4:42pm

It doesn't mean you had the wrong partners all these years, it just means you weren't getting the stimulation needed for FE or you weren't allowing yourself to just let go and not all women FE.


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Fri, 04-28-2006 - 4:47pm

~Well, thanks for all the info, but my question now is... Why did it take so long for me to do this? Have I had the wrong partner all these years?~

It just wasnt your time till now. That is all there is to it.

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Sat, 04-29-2006 - 12:27am
I was over 60 when it first happened to me.....and it might have had to do with my partner, because he knew what HE was doing, and he's very much into GIVING pleasure, maybe even moreso than getting it. But it really had to do with ME, because I've finally matured enough to not give a dang about anything but enjoying what I'm doing, no matter what I look like, what noises I might make, or anything else. 10, 15 or 20 years ago I might have been mortified if it had happened, for the same reasons you were. I would probably have made him STOP what he was doing for fear of embarassing myself. But I realized quickly that HE loved it......and he's a great one for just letting it all hang out, and wanting me to do the same. We BOTH joke about how nice it is to have FINALLY learned not to be self concious, and just GO with it......and that if we'd known how to do this when we were younger, we'd have both been KILLERS! Ah well, better late than never.
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Sat, 04-29-2006 - 2:03am
Welcome to the world of FE. Wrong Partner?-NO, just inexperienced ones. My man loves seeing and feeling it too. Recently another board posted that a woman doesn't reach sexually peak until age 55. So enjoy it for another 20 years of so!!!

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