Embarrasing Orgasms
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Embarrasing Orgasms
| Fri, 04-28-2006 - 11:29am |
I am a 33 year old, sexually active female. I’ve always enjoyed sex and orgasms are like the best feeling in the world to me. But something has happened to my body since I have been dating my current boyfriend. My orgasms have changed. In the past, with other partners, I have been able to control my orgasms, and when I have one, it’s like the muscles in my vagina contract and there is a minimal amount of discharge. But now with my new bf, and we’ve been dating for about a year… it’s like he hits something up in me that unloads this god awful amount of “liquid”. The first time it happened, I thought I urinated on myself, but I know I didn’t. Although it feels great, what worries me is that I can’t control it. He knows just the position to put me in to make me “cum”, and it’s very messy, leaving the sheets and bed soaking wet. It feels great and he seems to love it, but it’s very embarrassing. And out of my 33 years of living, this is something that just started with him. I guess what I want to know is has anyone ever experienced this and how common is it? I feel so weird!

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>>And yes, many guys LOVE it.....(their ego, you know!)<<
Not particularly picking on you, dakine, but just thought that I'd say that as a guy I'm not sure how I feel about FE. Never had a partner do it, and while I doubt that I'd be grossed out, I'm not exactly a guy that's "loving it" or "seeking it out".
All I mean is that some posters made it sound like guys in general are thrilled about FE. I'm not so sure about that.
Ain't it the truth, dakine. Where the heck was I in my 20's to 60's? Now, rock on! No embarrassment, and I'm good to go!
Cassie
That's why I said "many" as opposed to "all" guys. FE is something I lived without for many years, in fact, didn't even know about. I enjoy it happening, but very honestly, I could live without the mess. In my case, my SO loves it......I haven't got a clue why...but he does. And just as with orgasms, most guys know that they don't "give" them, but still it's got to do something for their ego when it happens. Nothing wrong with that, either. I would imagine that a guy would feel good about himself if a woman he's with is able to "let it all hang out".....because if she wasn't totally "into" him, it wouldn't be happening. (In most cases.....dang, have to "qualify" everything you say around here, lol)
I'm all for guys getting an ego boost during sex.....it's just unfortunate that some men let an unresponsive woman tear down their ego.....when it has nothing to do with them. When a woman is able to just let go of her inhibitions and totally enjoy sex, it definitely has something to do with her partner and/or her feelings for him. But some women have never learned to let go....have never learned to lose their inhibitions..and in that case, they could be with the greatest lover in the world, and it's not going to happen. It's NOT the man's fault in that case, and it shouldn't have anything to do with his ego.
Hey Spring,
Sit back and enjoy it! I had the same thing happen to me with my new boyfriend. I'm 40 and this NEVER happened to me. When it did, I too was embarrassed. But I knew what had happened because I had been reading about the "female ejaculation" for a long time and never believed it could happen to "anyone" and especially ME!
Well after I finished I asked him if he knew what he just did to me? He said I think I found the HOLY GRAIL!!! Well we couldn't stop laughing. When we calmed down I asked him if he was alright with it, you know... the mess the gush. He said hell yeah I just hope I can remember how to do it the next time! He's a real good learner and very enthusiastic. Now he hits it all the time!
If your guy doesn't mind it let him go at it. Girls are very lucky when they get a guy to care enough to make a special thing like "FE" happen and want to give it to us all the time.
Any way about the mess... There's a web site called WWW.LIBERATOR.com It's an amazing site with special pillows you can buy for sex. In my opinion you only need the RAMP AND WEDGE COMBO but look for the FASCINATOR its a blanket that is waterproof... fuzy and warm on one side satiny on the other. Buy it lay on it roll it up and toss it on the floor when your finished. Throw it in the washer in the morning.
Hope this helps. let me know
Shovo
"When I was a young woman, like you, I couldn't imagine that people over 50 would even HAVE sex, let alone enjoy it! "
I never said that I thought that at all, please don't put words in my mouth. I know for a fact my parents who are in their 50s still have sex and enjoy it.
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