Embarrassed By Doggy Style!

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Registered: 02-17-2007
Embarrassed By Doggy Style!
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Sun, 03-18-2007 - 10:15am
My friend's favorite position is doggy style but she is always embarrassed that guys put their hands on her butt for their support and then have access to look at her butt hole. She thinks her butt hole is personal and isn't for guys to see. Is her embarrassment normal? Do other women who love doggy worry about having their butt holes exposed for guys to see or is it just her personal phobia?
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Sun, 03-18-2007 - 12:45pm

It's her personal phobia. Since DS is probably the 3rd or 4th most popular position, I don't think most women think about it, let alone worry about it. When you think about it maturely, isn't the whole genital area "personal"? If you can share one part of it without embarassment, why not all of it?

If she thinks it's "personal", it's a sure bet she'll never try anal!

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Registered: 12-19-2006
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 9:32am
I don't think anything about sex is normal. She likes what she likes or feels comfortable with. Doggy is my fav position, DH's too. Once you have witnessed c-sections, and all of the other things parenthood presents you with, let alone aging together as a couple, who cares about a butthole! Perhaps he even prefers seeing her butthole, but I don't think that visual is the one that makes most guys like this position so well.


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Registered: 08-16-2006
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 12:41pm
Worry! I can certianly say that I did and was most uncomfortable in this position until I fully realized that DH respects my boundries. It's still the worse position for me that we do but at least I know that he won't molest or violate my butt hole without consent and it's never goung to be offered either.
Being she feels this way, try to make it clear that you won't violate her then maybe she will be less embarrased as time goes on.
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Registered: 09-13-2006
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 1:03pm
Hey there.....guys love looking at womens bum holes! They get turned on....it's the money shot, if you know what I mean. They like what they see 99% of the time, so tell her to display it proudly. =)
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Registered: 08-16-2006
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 4:53pm
It's her body, she can feel ( and share for that matter ) however ( and whatever ) she see's fit. Wouldn't you agree.
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Registered: 04-27-2006
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 10:43pm
My girlfriend's favorite position is doggy and she doesn't have a problem with that issue when I enter her vagina in that position and she is not into anal sex and neither am I. But we both enjoy doggy as well as missionary and her on top.
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Registered: 10-28-2006
Thu, 04-19-2007 - 1:44am

When DH and I first got together I was embarresed about that.
But hubby made it very clear that he loved every part or me.
He is very good at making me feel secure. Plus he says it's a
turn on. I don't get that but hey if he likes it then I don't need to worry about
it anymore.

Kareese

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Registered: 03-11-2005
Thu, 04-19-2007 - 5:21am
We both love doggy, but our only problem is that we both cum real fast while doing doggy. I guess that is OK since our orgasms are wild. By the way we don't do anal.