Embarrassing Masturbation technique

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Registered: 08-12-2004
Embarrassing Masturbation technique
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Thu, 08-12-2004 - 10:14am
i have always masturbated my clit by using my index finger to simulate a vibrator movement. i use quick back and forth or circulating motions. . this is not an issue when i masturbate alone because i'm alone. in the pornography that i have seen, usually you see a woman touching herself sensually and slowly not vigorously at all. am i unusual? it's embarrassing. do any of the women here vigorously stimulate their clits? do men mind it if a woman vigorously stimulates her clit? do most men picture women masturbating sensually and slowly? would it be a turn-off for men?

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 10:32am
Everyone is different! Do you think all men masturbate the same way? Nope, they don't. Some like it slow and sensuous, and some like it fast and hard. Women are the same way. There is nothing to be embarassed about, because whatever works for you, works for you. Don't worry about what a man wants to see, just as they don't worry about what a woman wants to see. Masturbation is about self pleasure, not about performance. Porno is a "performance", and in real life we don't perform, we enjoy whatever it is we enjoy. Don't believe everything you see in porno, in fact, don't believe anything you see, because it is ALL a performance. It's NOT real life.

Try taking that well lubed finger, and just being slow and gentle. It may not produce an orgasm, but it WILL be a pleasure. Sex isn't only about orgasms, it's about pleasure. You can have both!

And don't worry about what turns men on or off. If a man is interested in you, whatever you do will turn him on.

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Registered: 07-28-2004
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 11:26am
don't ever worry about turning a guy off by masturbating!! I can't reach orgasm quickly if I use slow steady strokes, and so I have to go vigourously at times. My bf thinks it is just as wonderful to watch.

Just relax and don't worry so much about orgasm. have fun!

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 11:45am
Girl there is no way that it would be a turn off. I think the idea of watching a woman masturbate is both sexual and emotional. I like the idea of being able to share that private moment and watching both the action but also the facial expressions of pleasure as she reaches a climax.

Your guy will like it !!

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 12:09pm

First of all there is nothing to be embarrassed about.


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Registered: 05-18-2004
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 12:45pm
Hmmm... I have seen women be slow and sensual or vigorous in porn. However you do it is fine, nothting to be embarrassed about. I am a pretty vigorous person myself ;-)

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Registered: 08-25-2004
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 7:38pm
I am the same way! Exactly the way you described it--that's the way i do it...i mean, don't get me wrong, slow and sensual feels awesome too--but it doesn't get me off. You are doing fine!!!
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Registered: 05-21-2004
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 9:16pm
oh MAN don't you worry about that!

i practically break my fingers off i masturbate so fast....

and TRUST me, my BF LOOOOOOVES watching me do it!!

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 9:26pm
I think that most women that I've seen masturbating start of slow and sensual to get themselves warmed up and finish up very fast; just like you described. So there's certainly nothing unusual about how you masturbate. Any guy that likes to watch a woman do it will love it.
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Registered: 07-22-2004
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 9:30pm
YES there actually are men out there who do mind and there are men who just don't. Doesn't matter its not your own man though.

As a myself, I can say that it doesn't really affect me either way. I'm more interested in what the Mrs. & I do together, but would not mind at all if she were to please herself. Sometimes after her rages from work, I almost wish she would, LOL! I tried convincing her to take a "toy" with her on her business trips a couple of times, and I even took her to one of those types of stores too. She wouldn't budge and said that her hand did just fine in those . :)

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Registered: 02-15-2004
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 10:44pm
oh don't worry!!! just because you see that in a adult movie does not mean every guy is turned on by that way of masturbation. Take it from a guy like myself we will be turned on by the way you (yourself) do it.....not by the way its shown in a film.

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