enjoying the sex but havent been able...

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Registered: 08-25-2004
enjoying the sex but havent been able...
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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 1:03am
To cum...i dotn know what it is with me lately... me and my bf will have sex and i enjoy every minute of it but i havent been able to cum..i dont understand why i havent been able to but its starting to bug me...i love my bf alot and dont want to hurt his feelings by telling him that i havent been able to cum... think it could be that i am getting bored with how we have been doing it...thanks for any input....
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Registered: 05-27-2004
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 1:59am

Assuming you mean orgasms.....have you EVER had them? If so, when did they stop? You shouldn't have to "tell" him that you're not having them, he should know, unless you're faking them. If you are, then STOP, because you're accomplishing nothing. If he thinks everything is good, there will never be a change. His feelings have nothing to do with it....he doesn't "give" you orgasms.....he can only help you get there, and evidently he's not doing that.

If you're bored with things, then make some changes. Talk to him about it, and try to figure out something new and different to do. Maybe he's just as bored as you are. A relationship has to be worked on constantly, or it WILL get boring. Communication is the way to make changes. Start talking.

Also, sexual problems are often the sign of other problems in the relationship. What else is going on? No matter what's going on, it's not going to be fixed if you don't bring it out in the open. If you can't communicate, you have real problems.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 7:06am

I agree with Greenteabag.


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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 10:50am
there really isnt anything for me to stress over... i havent been faking it at least i dont think i enjoy it all i just get almost to the point ( and i can be voacl) but then he changes what he was doing and i loose it... does that make sense? our relationship in general is great... we do communicate about everything thats going on with us except the fact that he gets to his orgasm point faster then i can... i think thats the problem anyway thanks for the input and i will keep it all in mind for when he comes home...
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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 11:13am

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Wed, 06-08-2005 - 7:48am

Morning Tish: ITA with your response about orgasms


1-My wife takes longer to get satisfied; manually or orally, I make sure she is satisfied first!


2-I am there to ASSIST her to orgasm.


3-If she TRIES to have an orgasm, it probably will not happen.