An erection question

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Registered: 01-22-2006
An erection question
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Sun, 01-22-2006 - 1:55am
Hi...
Just curious...
When a man is aroused does he always get an erection? Are there times where a man can be really aroused and not have one? (And I am referring to a man that has no problems with getting erections)
A pretty basic question, but curious!
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Registered: 12-24-2005
Sun, 01-22-2006 - 6:33am

It depends upon what you mean by an erection.

When a healthy male becomes sexually aroused, one of the first physiological reactions his body experiences is a redirection of bloodflow into his penis, causing it to grow larger in order to prepare him for intercourse. This doesn't necessarily equate to a full erection, or even one that is sufficient for sexual intercourse, however.

That would depend upon a number of factors including the duration and intensity of arousal, as well as other physiological and/or emotional considerations.

Even though an aroused penis might be insufficiently erect for intercourse, it can, nonetheless, produce an ejaculation in such a state.

But technically the answer would be 'yes,' when a man is aroused, barring any medical abnormalities, his penis grows in size due to the redirection of bloodflow. And more often than not, sufficiently large for procreation to take place.




Edited 1/22/2006 6:58 am ET by e_steubing
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Registered: 07-26-2005
Sun, 01-22-2006 - 10:25am

What do you mean by "aroused"? Are you talking about when he's with you? Are you talking about when he's looking at porn, or a beautiful woman walking by?

Are you confusing "aroused" with "attracted to"?

Be more specific.

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Registered: 01-22-2006
Sun, 01-22-2006 - 9:11pm

I guess what I am trying to get at is when a woman is aroused, she can be that way sometimes without being 'wet.' Such as in a a situation where a man and a woman are maybe talking dirty to each other, it can be a very arousing conversation, but will a man always get an erection? When a man and woman kiss passionately, is it typical for a man to get an erection, or do men more times than not need more stimulation? (and again we are talking about a man with no sexual health issues)

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That is an interesting question...I think what I am directing this question towards is state of arousal.... aroused would be in a sexual situation, and attracted to would be someone he finds attractive.... however these go hand in hand, because hopefully he would be with in a state of arousal with someone he found attractive....

Maybe another way I can pose this question, is an erection always an indicator that a man is in a aroused state?
Make sense, or do I just make this more confusing?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 01-22-2006 - 10:59pm
When a normal male becomes sexually arroused, he automatically gets an erection. However, if the the man's attention becomes diverted, such as if something occurs to direct his attention elsewhere, the erection ceases very quickly. So don't suddenly change the subject to baseball if you want his romancing to continue. LOL It all begins and ends "between the ears".
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Registered: 07-26-2005
Sun, 01-22-2006 - 11:40pm

Are you trying to figure out if a man is interested in you, or is aroused by you? Men get erections very easily. I've read that they can get several a day for NO reason at all. A man can get aroused if he's thinking about sex, with you, or in general. A man can get aroused from kissing if he thinks sex will follow.

None of that means "attraction" or "love". It means he'd be willing to have sex with whomever he's with, if that person seems willing.

If you're kissing a man and he doesn't get aroused or erect......that can mean he's not interested at the moment, or not interested at all. It can mean he's not sure of you and he has very good control. It can mean all kinds of things.

Some men aren't interested at the moment, but can be encouraged. ALL men are different. It also depends on age and maturity. Teen-agers can get an erection just looking at a gril in a revealing outfit. Mature men usually have better control than that.

Erections certainly are NOT an indicator of anything to do with love or feelings. If you're trying to figure out if someone is interested in you.....a better way to find out is to ask.

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Registered: 06-24-2004
Mon, 01-23-2006 - 8:25am


That is an interesting question...I think what I am directing this question towards is state of arousal.... aroused would be in a sexual situation, and attracted to would be someone he finds attractive.... however these go hand in hand, because hopefully he would be with in a state of arousal with someone he found attractive....
>>>>> I wonder are you trying to catch him at something?

Maybe another way I can pose this question, is an erection always an indicator that a man is in a aroused state?
Make sense, or do I just make this more confusing?
>>>>> It makes sense to me, and no not always.

Erections certainly are NOT an indicator of anything to do with love or feelings. If you're trying to figure out if someone is interested in you.....a better way to find out is to ask.
>>>>>>>> I whole heartly agree with this part, talk to him. Last summer we were going into a local restaurant, when a woman with a small tight top came out, my gal poked me and said did you see that(or like or something of the like), I said sure but I love you.
Perhaps a better way to answer this one is to tell you about some of my erections, weather they are from a state of arousal or just life. When I frist get up, usually this one is because my bladder is full and it just pushes on the penis itself, I have also heard moring sex is best for men because our hormone levels are highest then. Sometimes just during the day when I think of sex or just because. Sometimes when I am with a woman and it is heading twards sex it takes a while to form an erection, or more often than not I get several small ones than may or may not be hard enought to go in.

I hope this helps, feel free to e-mail me at any time.

Jason

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Registered: 01-16-2006
Mon, 01-23-2006 - 11:57pm

Thank you, I think that all of your replies help...

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>>>>> I wonder are you trying to catch him at something?

----No, I am not. I think that all I am trying to figure out is if an erection is always an indicator that a man is aroused. I know of some women who "make out" with their SO and they are soft, but once she goes down on him, he starts getting hard...would this mean that "making out" was not arousing?

Thank you for helping understand my mystery of erections! =-)
Igrl

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Registered: 01-22-2006
Tue, 01-24-2006 - 12:04am

Sorry, I did not mean to confuse on my last post, I was signed in on my other screen name. (Maggie06) I am the same person, though.. =-)
Igrl

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Tue, 01-24-2006 - 3:17pm

You cannot compare one man with another man. You can't even compare the same man today with yesterday. A lot of this depends on the age of the "man". Teenagers can get an erection for NO reason at all. A more mature man will not get them as often.

If you're trying to figure out if a particular man is "interested" in you or finds you attractive, whether or not he has an erection isn't going to tell you anything. Some guys will get an erection because they think that they're going to have sex, and they don't have to be interested in a relationship with you, they just want to have sex with you. Conversely, just because a man doesn't get an erection while "making out" means nothing. It certainly doesn't mean that he's NOT attracted or interested. It just takes more to give him an erection. That could be what happens today, and tomorrow it might be different.

Sometimes a guy has other things on his mind, and it takes a while to get him to that state. Sometimes he's tired and/or stressed out, and he can't even get an erection. Don't base anything on whether or not he has an erection.

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Registered: 01-05-2006
Mon, 02-13-2006 - 1:54pm

I thought that a man didn't have to be stimulated on his penis for him to get an erection with a hand etc. Is that true? What contributes to it to take awhile to get one-Why the stimulation?

This site is helping me..

When you think of sex what goes through your mine for you to have an erection?

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