Ever feel like this????
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Ever feel like this????
| Fri, 05-28-2004 - 11:19pm |
I always thought that the older I got, the less impulsive and more mature I would become, and in most cases that is very true. However, as of late something keeps getting worse. Let me clarify: I met a man online not long ago, and although I don't know him at all (just what he has told me), I find my self fascinated with him. He says he lives within easy driving distance of me, but that is all I know right now. Now, I know all about people not being whom they seem online (I haven't even seen a pic of this guy) and the dangers that can be involved; but that is not what is concerning me here. What is getting scary to me is how driven I am becoming. Last night, when I read his e-mail, I felt like hopping in my car and driving all night just to get to him! It is a terrible burning desire, worse than physical stuff like hunger, thirst, etc. Does this get worse as you age? I feel like my libido is getting more unruly the older I get! I thought this "teenage lust" would mellow out (I'm 34 but sometimes I feel like 16!) once I got out of college. I just wanted to go find this man and leap on him like a horny dog (pardon the analogy!)! In these situtions (I have done it with guys in person as well - in thought, not deed) I feel that I almost can't help myself, like one day I'll get busted for sexual harrassment or something!
Does anyone (esp females) ever feel like this? BTW, masturbation does little to curb the feelings - like having a packet of airline peanuts when you are really starving and could eat the proverbial horse! Can anyone relate?
Schrecken
"Never fear, Underdog is here!"
Does anyone (esp females) ever feel like this? BTW, masturbation does little to curb the feelings - like having a packet of airline peanuts when you are really starving and could eat the proverbial horse! Can anyone relate?
Schrecken
"Never fear, Underdog is here!"

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Whoa.........RED FLAG.......sorry schrecken, but performing intimate "medical exams" to HELP a women deal with anxieties related to sexual abuse, that is waving a big RED FLAG!!==
Considering your past, I think you are attracted to him *because* you know he is an abuser, even if he tries to make it sound like it's not crossing the line. I think you are purposefuly not creating avenues in real life for relationships with men because you are scared. The net is a way for someone to meet and interact with others sexually, yet still be disconnected and in their safe zone. I agree with Tish, get some therapy. This is not healthy.
Leticia
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SICK PERV is right! Do NOT keeping talking to this guy!!! What are you thinking????
I also agree that you may be sexually attracted to him because you suspect that he is a sicko abuser.
STAY AWAY! This is incredibly NOT NORMAL behavior on his part.
Think about this, would you feel comfortable telling your friends, mom, coworkers about meeting this guy online for a "sexual medical exam" to help deal with abuse issues? Would you want to tell your therapist? NO, guess why, because its totally weird. Its not a good idea. He is some sicko who is preying on sexually abused women online by pretending to understand what you are going through. He is just waiting to get close enough so he can screw you up some more. Usually, if you are uncomfortable sharing with people what you are involved in, there is a reason for that. You know this isn't a good idea. You are a smart woman and you should know better. Don't do this to yourself.
End contact with this weirdo.
Regarding moving things from a friend level to a romantic level with real people in your real life, I think 100% of it is about confidence. No one wants to be part of someone else's pity party. If you don't believe that you deserve a great guy, if you don't believe that you are hot and can get any guy you want, you aren't going to get one. Confidence is the number one thing that both sexes are attracted to. If you believed that you were worth it, you are attractive, happy, smart and fun to be around, other people would believe it too.
You can't control what other people do, but you can control every single thing about yourself. You said that you are lacking that "something." The something that you are lacking is the confidence of knowing that you've "got it." That's what draws other people to you.
Sara
Schrecken,
I've been re-reading your posts.
Tish,
My personal opinion of this ad.........sex
==<> Again, he's gaining your trust!!==
ANYONE can tell you what goes on in a Dr's exam. Why are you choosing to be led?
Leticia
Tish,
Schrecken
"Never fear, Underdog is here!"
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