Ever Had Sex with Your Ex?

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Ever Had Sex with Your Ex?
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Thu, 11-15-2007 - 12:13pm

Ever Had Sex with Your Ex?



  • Yes, often.
  • Yes, it was great!
  • Yes, but it sucked :(
  • I'm thinking about it ....
  • No, never in a million years.
  • No, but I wish I could.
  • Other, please explain.


You will be able to change your vote.






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Registered: 03-31-2007
Thu, 11-15-2007 - 12:17pm
In this video clip, Dr. Laura Berman tells TODAY's Hoda Kotb why so many of us are tempted to jump back in the sack with an old flame.



In a poll, 65% of the viewers agreed: it's a bad idea to have sex with your ex. Dr. Laura Berman says, get your emotional fixes elsewhere -- you're just setting yourself up to hurt all over again.



Share your opinions with us after taking the poll.




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Registered: 08-09-2007
Thu, 11-15-2007 - 12:31pm

I voted yes, often. Even though it's not often like I would like. But he is the only one I'm sexually active with and have been for quite sometime. I know I shouldn't be, but I do it anyway because sometimes the sex is out of this world!! Not to say it couldn't be out of this world with somebody new. But I guess the sex part is hard for both of us to break loose from. But that's all it is.


And I agree with Dr. Berman, I can easily set myself up for a world of hurt if I don't have my emotions in check. But why I'm not totally broken up is because I know why it didn't work and the only thing we have in common and going good is the sex. Although I defiantly do it, I wouldn't recommend having sex with their ex, especially if you were in love with him/her. Because usually in the end, someone or possibly both end up getting hurt and finding yourself worst off than before.

Cherron'



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Registered: 02-17-2007
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 7:51pm
I have, just with one ex. It was actually easier because there wasn't the emotional involvement (on my part) and it was just sex. It was easy because the sex was really amazing and he was a jerk. However, like they said, you still get attached on some level. I wouldn't recommend it.

 

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Registered: 08-16-2006
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 8:46pm
I had sex with the ex-wife a couple of times after the divorce, she was always so kinky and fun, but it was only sex for both of us. She always used it to manipulate me in the marriage, it was fun to use it back on her for once.

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Registered: 12-25-2006
Sat, 11-17-2007 - 1:25am

I had sex with an ex bf in college and it was AMAZING and we ended up back together for a few months.

Carrie

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sat, 11-17-2007 - 7:41am
Hi Carrie,



I'm sorry to hear things have come to that point in your relationship with hubby. Is there a chance that he would agree to having an open relationship?



If you're thinking of having an affair, there are a couple of links on iVillage you might want to visit. The first, When You're Tempted, offers links to articles that you might find helpful. There's also the My Affair Support message board.



I know you've been struggling with your sex life at home. Maybe considering having an affair is a sign that you and your hubby need some sort of help sorting things out. Have you thought of seeing a therapist, or a couples therapist? Often, having a third person to discuss things with can be very helpful.




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Registered: 11-08-2006
Sat, 11-17-2007 - 3:21pm

Why would I have sex with my ex, when he wanted SOOOO little of it when we were married (15 years)????


carole

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Registered: 12-25-2006
Sat, 11-17-2007 - 3:25pm

Thanks for not blasting me for considering cheating, I wouldn't blame you.

Carrie

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sat, 11-17-2007 - 3:42pm

Awww, it sounds like there is a lot on your plate, Carrie. Did the two of you marry, knowing that you planned to not have children? I know for some people that thought process can change over time. I have a couple of friends that have had relationships end when one or the other partner has changed their desire for a family.

Good luck with talking to him. Hopefully you can get him to go to counseling to. If you need to come here and vent, feel free to do that too.





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