At every opportunity?

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At every opportunity?
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Wed, 07-14-2004 - 11:45am
Do you and your SO have sex at every opportunity you possibly can? Or do you skip opportunities and make each other wait?



One of my best friends and her husband have sex every day, sometimes more than once a day. my bf has started making us wait. We used to everry time the opportunity arose. But now, he's still very affectionate, but sex only happens once in a while, usually after a long period of waiting and being suggetive with each othr.

Which is better in your opinion?

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Registered: 05-18-2004
Wed, 07-14-2004 - 12:17pm
Yes, we take every oppurtunity. What bothers you about him waiting? Not everyone takes every oppurtunity, and how good your relationship is isn't based on how often you have sex.

Leticia

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Wed, 07-14-2004 - 12:49pm
Time and place for both approaches, IMO. Keeps things interesting.

I know that my DH and I go through phases of having sex several times a day for a couple of weeks, and then not have sex at all for a week. We never take it for granted either.

I don't think couples should have sex just to have sex though. It's a special act to us so we like to have sex when we both want to, not as a "requirement."

IF you feel that your guy is depriving you, though, then speak up. Find a compromise.


Edited 7/14/2004 12:51 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001

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Wed, 07-14-2004 - 1:35pm
oh wasn't complaining. Was actually just making a comparison to show the 2 different aspects. We have a very loving relationship and sex isn't all a relationship is, just a part of it. It is different than when we first started dating, but not in a depriving manner. I think that relationships grow and change as you get to know each other. Just wondering how everyone else's relationships compared.
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Wed, 07-14-2004 - 1:45pm
Gail & I DON'T have sex at every opportunity. Yet, I think hugging and touching each other helps to keep the physical and emotional bond strong. I like to massage her legs and feet after a long day. When she doesn't feel like sex, a sensual massage is fun. Mac

 

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Wed, 07-14-2004 - 1:54pm
>>Yet, I think hugging and touching each other helps to keep the physical and emotional bond strong.<<

They had something on the Discovery Channel about that. How all the physical touching helps keep you feeling connected. I know it's rare that I walk past DH(or him past me) and don't touch him. When he sleeps, he has to be touching me even if it is just with his foot.

Leticia

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Wed, 07-14-2004 - 2:27pm
We have sex when we both want it.

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Wed, 07-14-2004 - 4:16pm
Don't try to compare your relationship to anyone else's relationship. Your relationship is uniquely yours, and unlike anyone elses. If this works for you, then it's best for you.

Just as long as it's not being used as an excuse for lack of interest. I don't think I'd like it if I was interested and he said, no, it hasn't been long enough since the last time! There's something a little perverse in that way of thinking. What's the reasoning behind it? Afraid it'll get boring? It shouldn't in a good relationship.

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Wed, 07-14-2004 - 4:30pm
We have sex every chance we get because if we didn't do it then, we never would at all! LOL We lead such busy lives that we can only manage sex a couple of times a week. Otherwise I am too exhausted and just want to sleep or I plain don't have the time, so we have to jump on every chance we are both ready to rock and roll - so to speak. But I do agree that the love making sessions are much more intense now then they used to be. I don't know if it is because we have waited so we want to make it last or if it is because we are getting closer and closer (even after 3+ years) every day and just connect on another level. Either way, I am satisfied and not complaining in the least!
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