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| Thu, 05-25-2006 - 3:05pm |
Frazzled. Explanation.
This is intended to come across as an explanation not hurtful. I am at a loss for words in how to explain something.
Due to not everyone reading the individual posts that I send-I decided to do this as a note. To those of you who respond to me.. I am 38 and highly educated and deep in thought person and I am not writing anything. this only for me.
You are not broken records. I am not anaytical and I have times where i am unable to express in clear complete sentences more due to time constraints than anything else. If you saw my ongoing dialogue which i am unable to do on here becuase -not the same person always responds on here, you would see that it is not analytical etc. The reason I dont say much is becuase I get responses like I am currently receiving about me in regards to me instead of on the actual sexual/sex whatever that I seek to have you respond about that I benefit in. ....
Please read other emails/posts for explanations.
I know other ones on here who are benefitting like I am with the group. I have also been reminded it is good not to post details. I am being vague about my background. I know about foreplay for an example -not sure how to finish this sentence. The guys ... have given different responses that have been helpful but also at the same time seeing a female response is helpful. I dont see myself as repeating although at times I can't ever tell. Even if I do repeat there is more response that I receive that is different than before.
Judith

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Your initial responses helped regardless of how I wrote it and most of the time, I am writing the way I need to write it.
I hope I am coming across as nice, etc. That is how I intend this.
To all: I am sorry you all feel frustrated. but I am not giving details here and not referring to email addresses and such. Since I hve mention a few details, I am seeing assumptions that aren't true. Also There are just some that I can't respond to in a site like this. It is too personal..
Westridge said: Then please find the time. Or ask your question when you have thought carefully about how you want to compose it.
Actually I have posted the sentences in the way they needed to be posted... YOur initial response helped regardless of how I worded it. I didn't want you to feel confused. How I word it is -the best I can do.
I understood all of the analogy below and that are given. I am 38.
I am sorry it appears to you that I am asking vague questions but I am not -trust me. Even though it appears vague to you I am receive the responses I need.
What you are giving is specific to me and it helps.
I am sorry you feel frustrated. Dont be -you dont have to be. This is sincere.
Thank you for helping me.
Judith
"Unless you've tried counseling, then you have NO IDEA how it might help you."
Absolutely true. My DH is now a believer. He certainly didn't want to go to counseling but was very surprised at how much it benefitted our marriage, both as a couple and individually.
Something so simple as talking with an objective mediator can help to point out one's ineffective or negative patterns of thinking or communication.
Even if I did this is still helping. I dont know how to say this but regarding your saying about the life I want. .I know what I want and I am not going to say but this helping me on here is more the want right now.
Judith
Usually, the people who need counselling the most are the ones who are in denial about their problems. We aren't counsellors here, and our experiences have no bearing on yours, or your life.
If you ever want to have a normal relationship, including a good sex life, then you need counselling.
And the place here is here. This is more helpful
Judith
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