ex/fwb

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Registered: 04-01-2007
ex/fwb
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Sun, 01-06-2008 - 10:04pm
what is everyones idea on a fwb relationship with an ex?
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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: angelwings2007
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 12:06am

What's more important........what's YOUR idea?

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Registered: 08-01-2006
In reply to: angelwings2007
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 7:38am

Hi angel. All that really matters is what you think. He is an ex for a reason. Maybe a clean break is what's



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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: angelwings2007
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 10:11am

You're the only person who knows the status of your relationship with your ex. Can you truly be friends? Are either of you wishing your relationship hadn't ended? What's the reason for wanting a FWB relationship with your ex?

Whenever I've read or heard any sex therapist discussing sex with an ex, the recommendation is that it's not a good idea. While the sex might be great, the emotional issues get compounded. I think for you to decide if it's a good idea or not, you need to do some real inner searching as to why you're interested in having sex with your ex.

For me, I've had sex with exes in the past. In a couple of instances, the relationship had been over for quite a long time and neither of us had any reason to believe there was more to what we were doing than having a satisfying sexual encounter. I had one ex in particular that I hooked up with a couple of times for a weekend fling. While they worked out fine, part of the reason was because we lived four hours apart at the time. We could have our fling and then go back to our real lives. If your ex is accessible (lives close by), I think it is much more risky to try and have a FWB situation.

Here's a link to a recent discussion here about this topic, along with a video link on the second post:

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlletstalkab/?msg=21236.1









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