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| Wed, 06-22-2005 - 6:38pm |
Wow how do I start this topic? It's about having sex in the ass or licking ass (aka tossing salad) I know that this is perfectly normal for some but for others like myself I have a hard time with this issue because of all the taboos i hear about the butt, Some being .. squeamishness, cleanliness and health issues ...ect., I often talk to my friends about this issue and most maybe all says that they love the feeling and most of time they won't have sex with out it. Now don't get me wroge I have tried it once but to tell you the truth it hurt like hell and it felt like i was about to poop lol. These feelings I was having placed my fear in me .. After all the pain I mad up my mind and came up with my own saying " EXIT ONLY DO NOT ENTER" . I want to be able to over come this fear I have and some what enjoy the sensation and pleasures that I hear so much about. Question how can I make this very pleasurable for both myself and my partner?
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Tabbs, no one can tell you how to make this activity less uncomfortable for you. That's up to you, starting with a change in your thinking about it. Maybe you felt pressured to do it the first time before you were sure how you felt about it.
But IF you want to overcome your distaste, then all you can do is try to relax and take baby steps the next time. And just because others enjoy a certain activity, doesn't mean that you must learn to. We all have our personal boundaries and feelings and they should be respected. However, the more you do anything typically, the more comfortable and relaxed you should become with it.
But if anal continues to be painful, then you shouldn't keep trying to do it. You can do damage to your rectal tissues if you aren't fully relaxed and willing.
As for me, it's not my cup of tea and thankfully, it's not my DH's either!
Edited 6/22/2005 6:58 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
Dh and I enjoy anal sex on occasion, it's not something we do all the time.
anal sex i need to be 100% comfortable and relaxed, and also getting my mind in a different state other than pain.
Thank you so much for your advice.
Pain killers, alcohol, etc. are NOT recommended for anal sex.
I, myself, am sometimes incapable b/c I'm too uptight (no pun intended) about cleanliness. When it comes to hygeine, I like to be squeaky clean. So, I'll sit there and worry about whether I'm clean. I can't relax. Its all about finding the right position, too. I'd start off light..Like with a finger. Then work it to two..Then add in a toy-vibe or dildo. Then work to full penetration with his penis. But, move at a pace that's comfy to you. If you're not ready, don't rush it. He'll understand I'm sure.
Its good if done right. If not, its no good at all. Take things at YOUR own pace. And have fun with it, too! Maybe he'd enjoy a little play back there, too?! ;)
"One of my friends friends said you can't control your crap after, my guess is because those muscles are so loose after so many times."
I do anal on a fairly regular basis, and this is not true at all. I haven't had any issues with constipation thogh, I will say that.
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