Explain, Please?

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Registered: 09-25-2004
Explain, Please?
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Sat, 03-05-2005 - 10:36pm

I must confess that I am a naive woman who has lived most of her life under a rock. There are things I don't understand and this particular phrase "warm fuzzies" escapes me. WHAT DOES IT MEAN? I'll give you the EXACT context with which it was used..

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ExW:"It just hurts me that Grant never wants to talk to me anymore. I do all of the talking to you 200% of the time. I must admit I'm still not over it and I don't if Grant is over it either. I just hope that one day we can be friends and have warm fuzzies."

(The "it" she's referring to is the divorce. She even told me she hoped that my DH likes me..Umm...*looks at left ring finger* Yeah, yeah..I guess he "likes" me..After all when you like someone you marry them, right?)

I must confess again that I don't know what "warm fuzzies" are. Whatever she means, when DH heard about it he got very angry with her and said, "I wish she wouldn't say things like that to my wife." The only warm fuzzies I know of are the warm fuzzies you get when you've been given Diladin at the hospital...I told DH that I wanted to give her warm fuzzies of my own meaning and that maybe one day she and the bottom of my shoe could be friends if she kept saying things like that. This isn't the first time...

It does make having sex with DH hard because I want to know what "warm fuzzies" are and every time I get in the mood and we start going for it, I hear her saying "warm fuzzies" and it just ruins everything for me..

WHAT ARE WARM FUZZIES?

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: jenniekg
Sat, 03-05-2005 - 11:01pm

I don't know what the ex means by warm fuzzies, but for me getting those feelings from Dh,


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Registered: 09-25-2004
In reply to: jenniekg
Sat, 03-05-2005 - 11:13pm

Thank you. I will take your advice..For now, I must brush my teeth and then ice my jaw and curl up next to my DH and sleep...(damn wisdom tooth is cutting the gum and it hurts bad)...or try to anyway..*LOL*

Thank you! *hugs*

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Registered: 05-27-2004
In reply to: jenniekg
Sat, 03-05-2005 - 11:53pm
Maybe I'm stupid, but why are you chit-chatting on the phone with your husband's ex wife? What could you two possibly have to say to each other? Well, I understand where she's coming from, but what about you? She's getting her jollies sticking her wedge into your relationship, and obviously, it's working. Why do YOU talk to her?
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Registered: 01-16-2005
In reply to: jenniekg
Sun, 03-06-2005 - 12:35am
Warm fuzzies are one of those words that hard to define becuase it is slag and a word that gets overused. I think it means feeling good. A warm fuzzy moment is a moment that makes you feel good. Typically the conotation is in reference to a non-sexual experience.
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Registered: 10-13-2004
In reply to: jenniekg
Sun, 03-06-2005 - 12:56am

What is a "slag" in this context? To me, "slag" is another word for "slut" or a great big chunk of phlegm. You can either sleep with a slag or you hack one out the car window.

That aside, "warm fuzzies" are definately non sexual. I get them when I look at my favourite photos in my photo album, or as issytish said, when I hold a newborn baby. It's all puppies and kittens and warm stuff.

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Registered: 10-18-2003
In reply to: jenniekg
Sun, 03-06-2005 - 10:45am
I think smurf meant "slang".

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Registered: 01-08-2003
In reply to: jenniekg
Sun, 03-06-2005 - 1:54pm

Warm fuzzies isn't a sexual term. It means something that is said or done that makes a person feel good. If I praise you then I'm giving you a warm fuzzy. From the conversation you posted your husband's ex-wife is wanting to feel close to her ex-husband. She is wanting their interactions to be warm and comfortable.

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Registered: 09-25-2004
In reply to: jenniekg
Sun, 03-06-2005 - 4:32pm
She called me about a pair of stupid shoes for my stepdaughter. I figured I might as well answer the phone when she calls. I talk to her because DH is never around to. I know she gets her jollies doing that..I just wanted to know what "warm fuzzies" are.
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Registered: 09-25-2004
In reply to: jenniekg
Sun, 03-06-2005 - 4:35pm

*ROTFLMAO* Oh, please..A warm fuzzy moment for the two of them was when DH had her on the phone about SD and said, "Happy Divorce Day!" after she didn't show up in court for their divorce...There are never warm fuzzies for them..And DH doesn't want them. He hates her guts...

All I wanted to know is what "warm fuzzies" were. My question was answered..The subject is hereby dealt with and been closed.

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Registered: 04-01-2003
In reply to: jenniekg
Sun, 03-06-2005 - 10:45pm

Ummm... I often chitchatted to my DH's ex. Not about the two of them or the two of us, or any relationships, but about DSD, about our kids, jobs, sales at the grocery store, her parents (whom I knew), whatever. When you marry someone with a child, the ex becomes a part of your life too. We got along ok and I think it was very good for my DSD to see that, to not have yet more adults fighting in her life. Pretty much, her mom would call and talk to me because we could discuss things without getting into a confrontation the way she and DH often would.

I rarely agreed with her and often thought that often she was psychotic (although I never told her either one of those things) BUT, I got along with her for the sake of our daughter. DSD is now dealing with a stepmother of *her* son and she told me just the other day "I am trying very hard to remember how you and Mommy did it and act the way you two did." An accolade, IMO.

Of course, the ex wasn't trying to kindle any flames or warm fuzzies with DH either - but if she has, I'd have laughed it off. She's the ex for a reason and I never worried about DH seeing her without me or talking to her or anything like that. I probably would have said something like "Well...don't expect any warm fuzzies anytime soon but I *would* like to see you two act courteous towards each other for the sake of your daughter." It's hard enough on kids of divorced parents, I figured, without the SM getting in on the act. I refused to let her behavior dictate my own.