Extra large clitoris.
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Extra large clitoris.
| Sat, 02-24-2007 - 6:42pm |
My boyfriend recently told me that I have a really big clitoris. I was really embarrassed. He always pulls back my foreskin and strokes the knob in a circular motion. It feels really great. Here's the problem. He started calling it a penis and stroking it back and forth with his thumb and index finger. I love it. I get a fully erect clitoris but I'm not sure I want my clitoris being treated as a penis. He says it looks like a penis with a split down the bottom of the knob like a guy. I told him that all clitorises have a knob split down the bottom. He says he loves giving me a "hard on" and that he loves my "boner." Sometimes he calls it my "dink." He says he loves "giving me head" and when he refers to my masturbation he refers to what I do as "whacking off." Last night he asked me if he could play with my "weenie". Anyway he's been treating it like a penis and I'm not sure I want to be thought of as a "guy". Does anyone have any ideas on what I should do about this? I need help!

How old is your b/f? 12? There is nothing wrong with your clitoris. It's large, and they come in all sizes, just as penises do. What you can do with your b/f is tell him to stop saying things like that. He probably thinks he's cute, but if it's bothering you, then tell him to stop. If he won't stop, then HE needs to grow up.
If you haven't told him his stupid remarks bother you, then it's up to you to tell him.
Why haven't you told him to knock it off?
Clitoris' come in all shapes and sizes, just like penis'. First and foremost, you must tell him how you feel about his remarks. Let him know that you like WHAT he does but you don't like what he SAYS. You are a woman and want to be treated and spoken to like a woman. I think it's *CUTE* to give you a 'hard-on' but to play with your weenie? He needs to know and grow up! Or maybe, he's got a hidden bi-sexual interest that he's dying to explore!
Communication is the number one key to a healthy (sexual) relationship!
Katie
Why *guess* it's okay if you really don't like it?
>>You can also say his penis is a clitoris since both a clitoris and a penis start out as the phallus in the embryo. ALL internal and external genitals are the same in males and females the first few weeks of pregnancy.<<
I was going to suggest the same thing...
What he's doing is disrespect. If my SO grinned and said he wants to give me a blow job, I would have shown him the door... NOT say OK! By saying OK, you just gave him the message that he can treat you which ever way he wants and your feelings/opinion don't matter. To make him happy and go on with your life is going to make you miserable and unappreciated. You are going to find yourself lost in this relationship.
If SO compared my clitoris to a penis, I know it would be as an observation, open communication on both parts. My SO would also respect me as a woman and respect my feelings if I told him I didn't like it when he referred to my clitoris as a penis!
Women do not have *little penis* they have a clitoris. In my opinion, it is him who is discriminating the female sexual organ by not honouring it's real name and your feelings.
Katie
You came here unhappy because of his insensitivity. It bothered you. Now, you tell him you don't like it, but HE says he's going to keep doing it, so you agree because you want HIM to be happy? How about YOU? Now suddenly you agree that it's a little penis. It's NOT, it's a clitoris. Maybe you should refer to his penis as a HUGE clitoris! Try calling his pecs "man boobs"! Ask him how he likes to have "girlie" parts!
You're setting a very bad precedent for him, yourself and your future. If your partner hurts your feelings, and when you tell him that he does, he tells you he's going to continue doing it, and you say "oh well, as long as he's happy". Do you not count at ALL in this relationship? It sounds like you don't, or you THINK you don't.
Maybe this is a minor issue, but when someone upsets you, you tell them to stop it, and if they refuse to stop, then they don't care very much about YOUR feelings. You need to start standing up for yourself, and demanding respect from him. It's not so much that he said it in the first place, but the fact that he says he'll keep calling it that whether you like it or not, shows that he has NO respect for you.