extramarital question

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Registered: 05-15-2005
extramarital question
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Tue, 06-28-2005 - 6:38pm

DW and I have been together for 10 years. Before we met, I had several long relationships where the sex was great. My relationship with DW is good, but she has always been against oral sex, both giving and receiving. Nothing I have said or done has made a difference.

I never mentioned this to anyone until a good friend started talking about her husband, and recently she mentioned that she missed having someone go down on her, because her husband wouldn't do that. About the third time she mentioned this to me, I told her I enjoyed doing this, but DW was against it, and I hadn't enjoyed the taste of a woman in over ten years. Shortly after I mentioned this she proposed that we get together to mutually satisfy each other orally.

I would never want anything to interfere with my family, but I am interested in doing this because I miss going down on a woman. She says this can be a no commitment relationship. I suppose my question is, do you think that what she says is possible, and can I count on someone being discreet like I need them to?

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Registered: 04-04-2005
Sat, 07-02-2005 - 12:53am
If you love your wife - don't do it. Very bad move.
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Fri, 07-08-2005 - 1:22am

I suppose my posted response will be a mix of the pp's responses.

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Registered: 10-07-2004
Fri, 07-08-2005 - 10:59am

If you have no problems throwing away 10 years of your life (and your DEAR WIFE's 10 years) then go for it.

I don't get it really, especially when you describe your relationship as 'Good'

And if you have kids, then you're really wandering into the world of selfishness.

Expect the very worst of consequences and then weigh out your choice.

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