Facials

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Facials
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Fri, 06-03-2005 - 1:50pm

After seeing discussions of facials for months on this board, I had always said that would not be my thing. Now I have a lover who practically always cums that way and it's better and much more of a turn-on than I thought. I don't there's any "controlling" aspect to it at all with this guy, he's just like, "that's hot!" So be it. Amazingly I haven't yet gotten any in my eye despite a couple dozen of these -- hair, forehead, up nose, on tongue, etc. but not in an eye thank God. I have read over and over from you guys that it is not going to feel good so I close my eyes, open my mouth, stick out my tongue and he goes for it!

It brings up a really interesting emotion in me and I can't put my finger on it but you aren't going to forget the first guy that does this to you unless it's somehow abusive or bad.

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In reply to: iphillippa
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 5:56pm
im sure a lot of guys get the idea from porno movies, but I don't watch very many of them myself :-)
for me I guess its a power thing - its a big turn on that my wife or girlfriend is willing to submit to having her face covered in cum, that she is willing to do that for me, that she's into me or loves me enough to submit to what some other women regard as degrading..
I feel a definite rush of loving/feeling for her when she smiles at me with semen trickling down her face..
as you say, you feel something you can't put your finger on...
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In reply to: iphillippa
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 6:00pm
strange, I would have thought more women regard it as degrading, not men... ?
have you ever had a facial from a previous boyfriend ? Im curious - how do you think it would turn you on ?
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In reply to: iphillippa
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 6:11pm

My DH and I are in complete agreement about it. I don't find the idea a turnon in the least nor a loving act.

And no, my previous partner never asked to give me a facial.

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In reply to: iphillippa
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 6:24pm
i think I mixed up the thread with rain_dancer..
I know what you mean, I have felt embarassed on occasions when I have given a facial and it was not what the woman was expecting, it only a loving act when both view it as such, and I do feel twinges sometimes that this isn't something I should be doing to the woman I love. I occasionally feel the same way about cumming in her mouth..
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In reply to: iphillippa
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 6:32pm
Porn shapes many(not all) fantasies. I remember when I was young reading "Men in Love" by Nancy Friday. It was a book about men's fantasies. I didn't buy it as arousal material--I was genuinely interested in what men fantasized about. However, it turned out to be EXTREMELY erotic and those fantasies became my fantasies. Things I would never have thought of on my own. ;-) I was a man for a long time. tee hee
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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In reply to: iphillippa
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 6:32pm
I have always thought it was seriously degrading and i never thought i would do it. But this guy is just so innocent and nice and fascinated with "watching the show" there's no degrading-ness whatsoever. It's fun too because it has hottened up my attitude a bit overall.
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In reply to: iphillippa
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 6:35pm
that's a good point, you get to watch the show, I actually like watching what's going on...
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In reply to: iphillippa
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 6:39pm

Oh...so you were directing these questions to me?

"have you ever had a facial from a previous boyfriend"

No. It was never discussed, and I never even thought about it. Although I've seen porn as young as 14(magazines), I've never seen anything remotely relating to a facial...that is, until I saw my first hardcore film when I was around 20 with my now DH.

"Im curious - how do you think it would turn you on ?"

I'm indifferent to it. But that doesn't mean I wouldn't do it if DH wanted to. I'm with the man for 27 years for goodness sakes! ;-)




Edited 6/5/2005 11:37 am ET ET by rain_dancer_iam
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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In reply to: iphillippa
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 6:52pm

Nothing I can see is as sexy or erotic as my own imagination.

BTW, she also wrote the corresponding book about women's fantasies and that when I discovered that a few of mine weren't so strange after all.

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In reply to: iphillippa
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 7:12pm

Yes, I read that one too.

I do have a very vivid imagination as well. It's been years since I've seen hardcore porn or even read anything remotely erotic. It seems with age that my fantasies have mellowed out somewhat. When I'm alone, the majority of the time is just recalling what DH and I did in our last session or I'll remember our favorite position. It's so real, I actually awaken all of my senses in the interim. I'm a monogomous fantasizer....what can I say? ;-)

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )