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falling out!
| Sun, 09-05-2004 - 4:59am |
My boyfriend and I aren't very experienced, and I'm not sure what's happening here, but basically when we have sex in the missionary position his penis keeps falling out! I mean all the time! It gets a bit awkward.. then he starts to go soft.. or maybe it falls out because it's going soft? help!

Despite the thought that it's "natural" and everything should just be perfect from the first moment, it doesn't always come "naturally". Any new activity takes time to learn. When you learned to ride a two-wheeled bike.......did you just jump on it and ride down the street? Of course not. You needed help, you wobbled, you probably fell down a few times, and you kept at it until eventually, you just got on the bike and rode it.
The fact that you're both inexperienced makes it a little harder, but just think of the fun of learning together. Sex can be fun, as well as wonderful, and you need to stop thinking of it as "awkward".....it happens, you correct it, and keep going.
His losing his erection is probably from frustration and nervousness on his part. Both of you need to just relax, and keep trying. In time, it will be fine.
He may be going soft because he's distracted and feels a bit embarrassed with falling out all the time.
Another factor could simply be erection problems too. Almost all of us men have had that at least once. For many of us, its just a matter of our diet and health. For many of us its just emotional or psychological distractions or stress. Regardless the cause, erection problems be the culprit here as opposed to just your technique and thats during 'some' of those times.
During thrusting, sometimes it simply does take some practice on how to do it without accidentally falling out. Even I myself had to learn a bit of control. When my wife is on top, sometimes SHE has to control herself to keep me from slipping out too, lol! Normal normal normal.
Many times I've read about men who complain that they simply start penetration "too soon" before they are adequately erect. If this is not your case, good. Just an extra idea to think about. Let us know if the replies are helpful...hope all gets better. :)
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If he is young and healthy the erection problems should go away as you become more comfortable with one another (hopefully).
His penis is pretty big, so I think it must be technique...
Nice to have some reassurance. We'll be sure to practise some more!