Fantasizing

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Registered: 06-21-2005
Fantasizing
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Sat, 04-22-2006 - 3:56pm
Do you fantasize about other men while you have sex with husband/boyfriend? What effect does it have on you? Is it okay to do that?
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 04-22-2006 - 4:26pm

No I never have, I have no reason to.


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Registered: 06-21-2005
Sat, 04-22-2006 - 7:39pm
I am sorry...I don't have to fantasize, I was just wondering if other people do that. No, when we have sex I only focus on what we are doing. I guess I did not clarify myself. But thank you for your reply.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 6:48pm

No, I don't. That's the only real "rule" my DH and I have with one another. If we're having sex, then we should be THERE, with one another, in the moment. After all, you can always fantasize on your own time.

I'm quite sure that many things go in and out of your mind when you're aroused, subconsciously, but it's a choice to consciously think of another person while making love with your partner.

If one is unhappy or unattracted to the person they're with, then they most likely would fantasize.