Fantasizing about a guy
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Fantasizing about a guy
| Thu, 12-30-2004 - 11:56pm |
This may be a little too forward for some people, but every night I fantasize about having sex with this guy from a sandwich shop I go to every now and then. We talk whenever I go in there and I leave with a huge smile on my face. I've liked him for some time and have never really asked about his love life, but he's attractive to me and I'm most positive I'm attractive to him. Do you think I'm ruining a potential good relationship by fantasizing about having intercourse with him every night?

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Attractive, and attracted, two different things. You feel that you're attractive to him, but is he attracted to you?.....two different things. I find many people attractive, but I'm not "attracted" to them. If he is attracted to you, then he would do more than talk to you when you come into his shop. He'd ask you if you were in a relationship, and if not, if you'd like to meet him sometime.
I don't see where there's a "potential relationship"....and even if there is.....how would he know about any fantasies that you might have.
If you like him, why not get into a conversation about him, is he married, in a relationship, etc. and go from there.
Well then since you talk to him, why not ask him if he's seeing anyone and if not, ask him out.
Good luck!
I agree with greenteabag that being attracted to someone doesn't mean that they feel the same or are necessarily interested in doing anything about it! But I think it's pretty normal to imagine being intimate with someone you're very sexually attracted to.
He MAY think you're attractive but that doesn't mean anything unless he cares enough to act on it. We all see attractive people all day long but other circumstances have to be right to make a move....like being unattached.
Don't assume that there's anything more than an innocent flirtation going on. IF he was free, and if he was attracted, then he likely would have asked you out by now, wouldn't he? IF he's the shy type, then you'll have to be the one to take the risk and ask.
But remember, some people just enjoy flirting, it's good for business.
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