fantasy

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Registered: 04-19-2005
fantasy
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Tue, 04-19-2005 - 12:52am
I love my boyfriend very much and enjoy our sexlife, but I frequently fantasize about having sex with women. I do not want a "relationship" with another woman, but often wish I could have sex with an attractive woman. I guess a woman knows what a woman likes. Is this normal?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: kb935
Tue, 04-19-2005 - 1:53am

It's normal for you and many other women who find the same sex sexually attractive. Fantasies, in and of themselves, are generally harmless unless they become obsessive or interfere with your primary relationship.

I CAN admire other women for their beauty and sensuality but I've never fantasized about or desired them sexually.

Sometimes, I wonder if what women really are desiring, rather than a female lover, is the same sensuality, nurturing gentleness and the other qualities women typically possess, from their male partners.




Edited 4/19/2005 1:56 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: kb935
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 12:52am
Sounds pretty normal to me. Over the years I've known a number of women that have admitted that they have the same fantasy as you, so I guess that there is a larger number out there that have it but have never told me about it! Certainly society views female/female sexual activity very favourably. Nothing wrong with a good fantasy, whatever it is, if it's not causing problems with your relationships and daily activities.
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Registered: 01-16-2005
In reply to: kb935
Sun, 05-08-2005 - 4:59am
This is quite normal. I have read somewhere that 80 % of adults have had at least one same sex enounter. Women more than men do tend to have desire. There are many reasons for this such as socialisation as children. Women tend to be socialised to attend to emotions are encouraged to be more a part of a group, hence being social. Whereas boys tend to socialised to be more individual and focus less on emotions. I would not feel 'bad' about your feelings and think they are very natural.
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Registered: 04-18-2005
In reply to: kb935
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 6:09pm
I have to admit since I am bi...I get turned on when other woman fantasize about other woman. Often I find myself flirting with other "taken women" to see if they are interested. For me, it started as a fantasy but it soon became reality. What I have enjoyed about being with other women is the softness, moistness the scent etc. I love undressing a woman, its more complicated but sensual...FYI, I have pic's to share if you'd like