Feedback during sex?

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Registered: 03-22-2005
Feedback during sex?
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Fri, 03-25-2005 - 4:12pm

A general question for all...

I am pretty "vocal" during love making / sex, particularly when I am getting oral sex, and I REALLY like my partner / wife to give me "feedback" when I am giving. (Lets face it, if your not hitting the right "spots", he /she may not be getting all they could out of the experience, in my opinion).

My question being, do you like to be "guided" when giving, or do you prefer just to do your own thing? I have heard some people get "resentful" when they are "told" what to do and how to do it. But, an inch or two in one direction or another or a certain angle can be the difference between "nice" and "screaming orgasm".

Your thoughts please...

Owl

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Fri, 03-25-2005 - 4:47pm
I have no problem guiding Dh or being guided and neither does he.

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Fri, 03-25-2005 - 5:18pm
I like to get some feedback. I think that I'm secure enough to handle some direction and guidelines. As you say, it's important to know if you're hitting the right spots or just a few millimetres off! Certainly having directions barked at me in a drill sargeant approach won't work, but some encouraging feedback is very very useful. I think that it depends how the feedback is given in some situations.
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Fri, 03-25-2005 - 8:49pm
Neither my DH nor I like wasting our time, so we have no problem giving or taking guidance from one another.
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Sat, 03-26-2005 - 12:33am
Yep! I give it and get it. I don't want hubby tiring out guessing at what may work before I get my O LOL. And you're right Westie, sometimes you can be off by a mere millimeter but it can make or break the O LOL. Besides, when he gets it right he hears about that too :o)
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Sat, 03-26-2005 - 7:34am

Interesting. The most fun we have with sex is knowing each other so well that guiding anymore almost becomes non-existant. Its just so much fun because of that alone.

When we're trying anything different, then guiding is not a problem. For the different numerous activities we normally have fun with though, almost always there are no words needed. We enjoy being that compatible, but have no problem communicating if any problems occur or if experimenting with something different of course.

 

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