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| Mon, 08-15-2005 - 5:50pm |
my boyfriend is old fashion, and hes not really sure how to feel me up or how to go about doing it and Iam not sure how I can explain it to him..please help...

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It might not be that he's old fashioned, he might just not know what you like.
How old are you?
I doubt that he's having problems because he's "old fashioned" because they invented sex years ago too. People have been managing to figure out what to do for years and years before you and I were around.
I would hazard a guess that it's more likely that he simply hasn't had much experience in "feeling people up".
The simplest way to help him figure out what to do is to show him. Ask him to touch you. Then take his hand in yours, and move it to where you want it. Guide his fingers and tell him what you want at the same time. Basic instructions like "Yeah. Just curl your fingers there." or "Mmmmm. Rub gently there." will help him understand what exactly you are trying to show him.
Just remember that even if he had had lots of experience in feeling people up different girls would have wanted and preferred different techniques. So you would really need to show him what YOU like, even if he was confident about what he thought he was doing.
Communication is key if you are going to get 110% out of the experience. You can lie there hoping that he'll get it right, or you can show and tell him how you like it. And vice versa, ask him what he likes too.
Just take his hand and put it where you want it, move it how you want it, tell him what to do, it you want him to play with your nipples, squeeze them, suck then, lick then, whatever it you want, let him know.
Well, if he wants to do it himself......
There's something more going on here but I can't quite put my finger on it. No wonder you're confused. The guy doesn't know what he wants. I guess that you'll just have to see how it goes for a while. Keep talking to him if necessary, and honestly, the odd comment here and there and the occasional gentle direction with your hand shouldn't make him freak out.
Hi elainetwirl:
A guy DOESN'T automatically know how to feel up a woman. EACH woman will teach the guy to be a better lover.
Macman04
You said every time you fooled around, he would never touch your breasts and he's scared or afraid of hurting you.
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