Feeling really sore, owww.
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| Thu, 07-12-2007 - 2:30pm |
Do any of you guys who have sex a lot ever get sore? I was with my bf for the last 9 days and today I'm feeling a bit wrecked. Between my legs is quite tender, my throat is really sore, my right eye is bloodshot today from you know what. He is quite well endowed and I am a very small person. I have a ton of work to do and I'm simply crawling through it.
The thing that's ridiculous is, in the heat of passion I will say "harder, harder, harder" partially b/c I know he likes that but partially because it feels good. It feels good but it really hurts too, both at the same time. I will let him go for it hard in my throat too because he *loves* it and at the time it actually feels kinda good for me -- certainly different from anything I've known before. I wouldn't be at all surprised if we've had sex 20-30 times during that period, often with very long blowjobs to warm up. He is in his early 40s but gets full-on erections in seconds most of the time, at any hour of the day or night, and is always wanting more and more. So do I, I guess, I just love it when we're doing it but I'm realllly sore today. I've never been anywhere near this tender just from having sex.
I mean people go on vacations and honeymoons all the time. Even though I am petite as far as I know most vaginas and such are the same size. What do you guys do?

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I wonder if you have let him know how you're feeling, and what his reaction is to that? I know it's great fun to push the limits, but you do have to make sure that you stay safe and healthy while doing so. While he might enjoy certain acts, he also has to respect your body and you as a person.
Is your eye doing better as well? I'm sure you could get an infection as your eye isn't designed to have anything enter it. If he's giving you all those facials, and your eyes are getting filled with his come on a regular basis, you're probably setting yourself up for something bad there as well.
Hopefully your throat is feeling better (and back to normal). If it's still tender and sore, you may need to see a doctor. You could have torn or damaged tissue, and left untreated, the problem could get worse.
Does your guy have to do these more uncommon sexual acts to be satisfied? It's fine to have a kink you enjoy, but if it's necessary to act on the kink every time the two of you have sex, then it could be a sign that he does have some unhealthy views of sex. If he can't respect your body, then you really do need to speak up when things get a little to rough. Hopefully you feel comfortable enough to let him know how you're feeling and what you need sexually as well. A healthy relationship is mutually satisfying.
my partner in the siggy exchange
Gosh, I don't know what I said ... he's amazing. Endless oral, super super delicate patient caresses, great kisser, one of the world's great snugglers.
But wait I never said anything about anal -- never did, never will, and bf feels the same way!!!
Mmmm, not really I haven't brought it up. My eye's fine now, it's just that every so often he shoots some in there. It's an occupational hazard of dating him, I don't think guys can aim. Often I wear sunglasses and that essentially solves the issue (... plus it's very erotic if you remember to lick them clean while looking straight at him.)
Mmmm, no, he doesn't really do them every time or anything. I would say about half the time. We have had more time together lately and we have been getting into a mental place where it's very erotic but very affectionate too. It's wierd, it doesn't feel the least bit dirty even though I think many people would not be able to handle it. You should understand, sometimes we just sit around and read the paper -- everything's quite normal.
My throat is almost better. I won't see him until next week so it will surely have a rest. I would say he respects me very much, both my body and my brain, but I know he does like that one thing in particular so I totally let him go for it a couple times too many last week.
My german friend's grandmother said, the key to a successful relationship is, he should hardly be able to walk. (True!) So I try to more or less live up to that when I get to chill with him.
As a recent med school grad, I would say: I don't know how hard you guys are doing this, but you can seriously damage the vagus nerve that controls your gag reflex, and there are several other very delicate tissue structures in there. Once in a great while letting him go for it, assuming you can handle it, is probably okay for short periods. Hard throating on a regular basis (obviously somewhat depending on the size and shape of his penis) can absolutely damage some things in there. Most tissues take 3-7 days to recover from damage, so allow some time between sessions. Also, assuming you still have tonsils, because of the way they're deployed at the sides of the entrance to your throat, if his penis is wide or has a pronounced head on it you can very easily damage the tissue there too.
I assume "size0" means very petite ... it seems to me this would only make the problem more acute if you're very small. I mean it sounds crazy hot, but do be careful. Your throat needs to last you the rest of your life ...
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