feels soo good yet is soo bad!!

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feels soo good yet is soo bad!!
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Mon, 05-14-2007 - 12:11pm
2 weekends ago my ex was out at a concert w/ a bunch of us and he asked his BEST friend to take me home(we'll call him S)...no big deal...but it was... It was all we could do to keep our hands off each other on the way home & we barley made it in the house b4 ripping off eachothers clothes. AMAZING!!! S is my bestfriends cousin & lives w/ her fwb so i couldnt even tell her what had appened b/c i cant let my ex find out about anything!! I thought it wass just due to drinking & thought ohh it will never happen again...well later that week he txted me a rather expilcit msg & we ended up going at it again the following weekend at her house. He came by this Saturday b/c he knew I was a little depressed as i had been in the hospital Thursday & Friday and had to cancel my plans for Sat night. He said he didn't want me sitting home all alone on a sat night & brought some movies & was as sweet as could be!!! Well you can guess what happened. It felt so good knowing that out of all of my friends he was the one who showed concern while everyone else was out having a good time & i was sitting all alone in my apt.
We have been txting eachother all morning and are supposed to have dinner w/ all the kids and my ex tonight at chuckecheese. how awkward is that!!!!
I just want to know why so many of the things in life that feel so right are so wrong. (like S in this case) or his coworker who is has been my fwb for the last year. OHH my what am i getting myself into?!?!
I think I just needed to tell someone about S b/c I cant tell anyone else.

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Mon, 05-14-2007 - 12:20pm

If you were out with your ex, and this guy (whatever you want to call him) took you home and you had sex with him....so what? You're in a FWB, and he's in a FWB (which means no commitment, and both of you can do whatever you want) what's the big deal?

Your post is confusing (punctuation and paragraph breaks make it MUCH easier to figure out) but neither of you is in a relationship....so you're not hurting anyone (but possibly yourselves)......so why is it a big secret?

I think you should both sort out your FWB's and get on with your life publicly.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 05-14-2007 - 4:07pm
It doesn't sound as if either of you is in a committed relationship with anyone else, so I think it's fine that the two of you hooked up. If you expect it to become long term or committed, you might want to make sure he knows about your FWB relationships just so nothing feels awkward later.


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Registered: 05-02-2007
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 11:42pm
Im sorry but what is FWB? im lost....
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 1:42am
Friend With Benefits. In other words, sex with a friend, with no obligations. It's a purely sexual relationship. No dating, no pressure (supposedly!)
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Wed, 05-16-2007 - 8:04am

I keep a link in the Explore iVillage folder for a list of acronyms. You might want to bookmark this link for future reference:

http://members.tripod.com/cl-memeu2-ivil/memeslistofacronyms

It's okay to ask too, just thought you might find this helpful.



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Wed, 05-16-2007 - 8:23am

Why can't you let your ex find out, he's an ex!

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Wed, 05-16-2007 - 11:23am

Ever hear of the couple, Adam and Eve? It is all about the forbidden fruit!

Congratulations :-)

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Registered: 04-06-2003
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 11:40am
It's my exs bestfriend! My ex and i were together for almost 7 years we have been seperated for about a year and a half now. He is my daughters dad and he still does so much for me! I think i just feel moraly wrong sleeping with his BEST friend!! He would flip out if he knew. I think I just feel guilty. Thats all I know were both grown adults and can do whatever we want it's just that we don't want him to get upset or amke him mad!!
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Registered: 05-03-2007
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 1:40pm
There will most likely be more fall out between the male friends. There is the Man Code that might come into play. You don't do your bfs ex unless you have permission. Sometimes if enough time passes it's okay, but that's a pretty grey line.
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Wed, 05-16-2007 - 1:53pm
Im so glad someone else understands the 'Man Code' I think thats why i feel bad about it!! 'S' falls in that 100% IT's his bestfriend & we are forbidden to hang out when he's not around unless we are at my friends house (who is cousins w/ S) then it's still a fine line!!

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