Female ejaculation?

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Registered: 05-15-2005
Female ejaculation?
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Sun, 10-08-2006 - 2:25am

Hi
would just like to know what causes a woman to ejaculate?
I recently saw erotic film which showed a couple having sex he withdrew from her as she was reaching an orgasm and she ejacualting half way across the room it was a wonderful sight. i have never seen this before she was obviously enjoying an intense orgasm. i would just really like to know how common this is with woman what causes it and are there any techniques to make it more likely, do all woman ejaculate like this?

secondly,i could really do with some personal advice, basically i havent had sex many years, and i am soooo unhappy about the situation. its embarrassing. i have started to go out more, iam intending to to join the health club shortly, i think it will help lift my mood as i have had some problem with depression over the years.

i have started to meet women as friends which has been good. but i long for a good sex life.i'm now 40!! i think in some ways i have grown used to being alone in an unhappy way, tend to be quite shy.

i have always had quite a high sex drive, i love to seeing a womans body, its so beautiful sight, I do enjoy masturbating quite often,probably too much I guess, i have always had high sex drive and enjoy watching tasteful erotic movies but i long to be in a loving and caring relationship

well would really appreciate any advice please.

thanks
shaun

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Registered: 06-11-2003
Sun, 10-08-2006 - 5:26am

I don't know much about female ejaculation, I've never had it happen to me... but in reguards to the rest of your post...by all means join a health club.

I have worked out my whole life, and exercise is one of the best ways to boost your self esteem. It will build your confidence tremendously, and you will be amazed at how much your body will change in just a few short weeks. After a while you will actually start to crave the feeling that you get after a work out.

Please join...I can't stress enough the benefits you will receive, both mentally and physically. Good luck!

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Sun, 10-08-2006 - 11:41am

First and foremost, hopefully you know that porn films are actors acting, and things like male or female ejaculate spraying across a room are phony....trick photograpy, etc. It doesn't happen like that in real life.

Female ejaculation is usually brought on by "g" spot stimulation, and it's not an orgasm, it's completely separate from orgasms. It can happen with OR without an orgasm. I don't know the percentages, but not all women do it. Like orgasms, it's a learned response. It doesn't spray across a room....anymore than a man's ejaculate does.

As for your own life, sex or otherwise, it's not going to come to you, you have to go out and get it. I read something interesting today in the newspaper. An Amish man was being interviewed about their religious beliefs. He said many interesting things about doing good, etc. But the thing that I will always remember....."You can pray for potatoes, but pick up a hoe!" Get it? You can wish for many things, but you're not going to get them unless you help yourself. If you won't help yourself, then you don't want it badly enough.

I agree with the other poster. Join a health club. You'll meet people, and even if you don't, you'll get healthy! There are other things you can do....groups you can join, take classes at your local community college, volunteer at a hospital or nursing home, or meals on wheels. Not only will you be helping people, you'll meet other volunteers, who probably have a lot of time on their hands.

Remember, if you want potatoes, you have to pick up the hoe!

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Registered: 10-01-2006
Tue, 10-10-2006 - 6:20pm
I can only speak to the female ejaculation portion of your message. It does happen to me. At first only with much stimulation of the g spot area but now very easily. I have had it spray far enough to hit my foot while laying in bed personally not across the room. I tend to use a lot of towels now. I have managed to have this happen repeatedly without even having my pants off. My bf is very talented in this area. Good luck with the rest.
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Wed, 10-11-2006 - 6:13pm

>>do all woman ejaculate like this?<<

Nope. You'll be lucky to find many women that even know that it happens and that it has a name. Can they learn to ejeculate? By the sounds of it, no, not really. Personally it sounds to me that there are a few women that can do this, but not all women are capable of it either. It's a funny subject - shrouded in mystery and a lack of "hard" evidence.

>>basically i havent had sex many years, and i am soooo unhappy about the situation. <<
Carry on with what you are doing. You either get out more and increase the odds of meeting women and other people that you get along with or you keep doing what you are doing and continue to be lonely, horney and wondering "what if". Eventually you'll find and date and have sex. You have to change this yourself - the motivation comes from within and we can't do a damned thing for you except encourage you.

The exercise will help in many ways. You'll feel better and more positive. You may get into greata shape if you train properly. The natural endorphines will give you a boost too. Exercise is a wonderful way of banishing ordinary depression. And talking about that, is the depression the "I can't be bothered, life is terrible" sort of depression or is it a clinical diagnosed and Doctor-treated depression? If it's the first then it's quite possible it's self-inflicted and the best thing that you can do is to get up off your butt, stop feeling sorry for yourself because life isn't fair and no-one said it would be. If you can get motivated then good things start happening. Or even if they aren't good, they're certainly more interesting than nothing happening. If its the second type then maintaining motivation and exercise will be more difficult - but again if you don't make your life better no-one else can do it for you.

Good luck!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 7:30pm

Ejaculation isn't very common in women. No, not all women ejaculate and certainly, not across a room! I never have.

Please don't forget that porn is FANTASY. It's specifically designed to provoke quick arousal, mostly in men, so it's going to be an exaggeration, sometimes a gross one, of actual sex.

Shaun, figure out why your'e shy and how to come out of your shell socially, and you will naturally attract a woman to you. Confidence, intelligence, compassion and a sense of humor are very attractive to women.

Start with baby steps and you can learn to feel more confident in social situations first and then in intimate ones. Good luck!

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Registered: 01-07-2005
Sun, 10-15-2006 - 3:34am

After 30 years of sex female ejac is new for me, and only once has it "shot out". IMO, the 'shot-out' episode happened because he came out of me and stimulated the opening more than he would by staying in. Normally, my ejac will soak whatever we're on and they usually do not shoot (even though I would love 'em to). IMO, it is not something that woman 'learns' to do. However, it is something that she allows to happen when totally relaxed and stimulated in the right area (Gspot).

Here's my two-cents on your other issue: After my divorce, I was celibate for 8 years. Even though at the time I was positive it was by choice, I have come to realize it had more to do with my fear of asking anyone to join me naked. A coworker was always insisting that I go beyond my comfort zone and she was the driving force behind me and a male friend of 9 years connecting. Left on my own, I know I never would have questioned this male friend about our friendship. During my 9 years of celibacy, I swore I wore a sign on my forehead that begged men to "just do me right now", but no one ever did. Even though I don't really understand what is was about my coworker's words that made me confront my friend, I now acknowledge that it had more to do with me being open, relaxed and willing to hear and act. Wanting something and not doing anything to get that something doesn't work, in my book. Yet, it can also be said that wanting and acting may not always get you exactly what you want, but then again, it's always more about the journey than the destination. So relax, and open yourself up and take advantage of every minute of life around you, because it could be the simplest steps that get you what you want/need the most. Good luck!