Female Orgasm vs. Male Orgasm

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Female Orgasm vs. Male Orgasm
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Mon, 01-22-2007 - 6:14pm

I think I can speak for many when I say that we sometimes wonder what it's like for the opposite sex to experience an orgasm. So my question for the ladies and gents is, which orgasm do you think may be more pleasureable?

I think it's the female orgasm. Given, the male orgasm may be more of a release, but I think the female orgasm is more enjoyable. Whenever I have sex with my boyfriend and he comes, it's always accompanied with sounds of relief. Almost as if he saying,"Ahhhh, it feels SO good to finally get that out of me!!!" But whenever I come, it's more euphoric and I don't feel like collapsing by the end of it. Could it be because there are so many more "pleasure zones" and places to stimulate in/around the vagina than the penis???...What are your thoughts on this?

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 12:18am

What you're hearing from him is NOT a sigh of "relief".....it's pleasure, pure and simple. If it wasn't, they wouldn't do it.

Women have the advantage that they can have multiple orgasms.....that's about the only difference that I know of.

As for "pleasure receptors"....there are no nerve endings inside the vagina at all, except for the "g" spot. There's really no feeling in the vagina. The feeling is at the opening, but more importantly, the REAL feeling for a woman comes from the clitoris....which is comparable to the male penis. That's where all the nerve endings are, and that's where the pleasure emanates for most women.

This is like comparing apples and oranges. Men's climaxes are much more intense than womens....but we have more of them.....so it's even.

Check out www.the-clitoris.com to learn more about your body, and what makes it work sexually.

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Registered: 01-16-2007
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 7:32am

Agreed.

One is neither more pleasurable than the other. Women often find theirs harder and take longer to reach than men, because to reach it they would need constant clitoral stimulation which unless you are in the right position to facillitate this. Other than that, a good amount of foreplay is needed. The main difference between the two is probably the fact that women can enjoy multiple orgasms, whereas men cannot, but then theirs are thought to be more intense.

Another difference is that once orgasming women can keep going, whereas most men will lose their erection and need time to get it back. Women are quicker at recovering from orgasm and getting turned on again.

I have always wondered what sex is like for men, not the orgasm, the sexual intercourse, fellatio and handjobs (for lack of a better term) I asked my boyfriend a few weeks ago, and he said (between laughter lol) that it was just friction. But I am not satisfied with this description, does anyone else have any other ideas?

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 9:28am

Of course it's friction! Whether it's your hand, your mouth or your vagina, that's what's doing it, plus the mental aspects of it. That's the part where some guys have problems. If you read the posts here, SOME guys can't finish with intercourse, but can finish themselves easily. Others can't make it with manual or with oral, but again, they can do it themselves. Those that are hung up on doing themselves, or only doing it during intercourse, or only oral......are definitely "hung up" over something. More than likely some mental "taboo" because parents or religious leaders tell kids it's sinful, or "bad". Or maybe "performance anxiety". Many years ago, when sex was all about men, you rarely if ever heard about a man who couldn't finish. That's because they weren't even concerned about women's pleasure, only their own. NOW, they're aware that they have to "give" pleasure as well as "get" it.....makes it a little harder for some men.

So, if someone is lucky enough to wind up with a healthy guy who's also mentally and emotionally stable, they should thank their lucky stars.

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Tue, 01-23-2007 - 9:40am

Women usually need a little more warm-up to get to their orgasm, but then many can go for seconds, thirds, etc. For men (me at least) it's more about 'riding the edge' because once I climax, I'm done for a while. So I like teasing, oral because it's just enough less intense that I can last longer, etc.

As far as which gender has it better, I don't know that will be answered until they come up with full-senses telepathy so we can actually get in one another's heads and compare.

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Tue, 01-23-2007 - 4:48pm

My Dh and I have compared our experiences and he would agree with you. He thinks women's orgasms are more intense and typically, last longer than men's.

But really, IMO, I think they're probably very similar.

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Registered: 06-29-2006
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 5:36pm


"Many years ago, when sex was all about men, you rarely if ever heard about a man who couldn't finish. That's because they weren't even concerned about women's pleasure, only their own."

That must have been a long, long time ago. I have been around longer than most TV stations in this coutry, and I don't recollect it ever being "all about men", if I guy hoped to expect a return engagement.

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Registered: 02-26-2001
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 9:05pm

This discussion reminds me of a similar conversation in the movie 'Body Shots', where two guys are discussing the differences between men and women when it comes to sex. One of the guys says "When a woman has an orgasm, it's like a earthquake, right? I was doing this one broad once and, I swear to God, it was like a 7.5. And I'm lookin' at my d***, going, "Why can't you do that?""

I never had the opportunity to observe one of those 'earthquake' orgasms, but I've been told that they do happen. If so, then maybe your husband knows of what he speaks.

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Registered: 12-25-2006
Thu, 01-25-2007 - 3:13pm

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I do, I do, I do! And at the end of the day don't y'all think that it's just all good????