Female Viagra

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Wed, 10-11-2006 - 6:45pm

Is there a female equivalent of Viagra that I can get for my wife?

rich

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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: richdick
Wed, 10-11-2006 - 11:56pm

No, because women don't need an erection! There are "herbal" things that are supposed to be "enhancers", but unless she has a hormone imbalance (which can be checked easily) women's libido's are mostly brain and emotion driven. There are creams and lotions that produce "heat" (menthol based).....but if she's not interested, heat won't make her interested.

What is her problem, or maybe I should say what do you think her problem is?

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In reply to: richdick
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 2:39am

She loses her libido for long stretches of time. We are going through one of those periods now. She doesn't say no to me, but she also doesn't get hot and bothered either.

Rich

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In reply to: richdick
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 9:01am

Libidos change on and off, they go back and forth throughout your lifetime, hormone


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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: richdick
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 10:01am

I agree with Tish. There could be hormone fluctuations.....(peri-menopause can cause that) or other problems or stresses going on. Does she see her gyno annually? If so, she should mention it to him/her. If NOT, then she should, and she should start now, with a visit for a good physical, and again, mention it so that the hormone levels can be checked.

Take your ego out of it.....men don't seem to get it, women can enjoy it even without getting "hot and bothered".....as Tish said.....sometimes the "intimacy" is just as good as the "hot and bothered". Just because a woman isn't going wild, doesn't mean she's not enjoying it. If there was a real problem, she'd be saying "not tonight"!

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In reply to: richdick
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 12:45pm
Hmmmmmm.... Wow... someone asks a honest question.... and he has an EGO problem now??
dakine... I LOVE your responses... you seem quite intelligent.... but why does HE have to have an ego problem? If your spouse isnt acting what is considered to be normal for him or her in the bedroom, then it is an honest question. At least he cares enough to ask and isnt saying, "oh well... at least I got mine." I TOTALLY agree with the other parts of your answer!!! Just dont understand why it has to be an ego thing. :)
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In reply to: richdick
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 2:57pm

Calm down mamachelle - my feelings weren't hurt. And to suspect that a man's ego would be affected is a fair suspicion - mine was and I just didn't say it. The "ol' male ego" you know - I'm no different.

My wife and I are in our sixties and menopause is over. She takes bio-identical hormone creams instead of HRT. She sees our family physician quarterly due to an array of medical problems. And she has anual visit in about 2 weeks with her OB/GYN. She tells me she feels fine and for me to quit worrying. The instructions for use that comes with her homone creams changed frequency schedule about two months ago for the first time since she started using them two years ago. So, last week she went back to old frequenct schedule. If that doesn't make a difference, she says she will get another saliva test for homone levels.

Btw, we went to bed last night and cuddled naked for an hour at a suggestion from a friend. We agreed that we would not do any more than what nature made her feel like doing, and guess what, everything went very well for both of us. She's smiling today.

Thanks for the feed-back though. I'll keep watching to see if any other posters can think of anything.

Rich

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In reply to: richdick
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 7:34pm
I'm not attempting to respond for dakine, but she brings it up because it's a legitimate concern. Many men have their egos tied into female response and will admit to it. Many men believe that THEY GIVE orgasms to their partners instead of helping them to orgasm. It's a legitimate issue to bring up.
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In reply to: richdick
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 11:59pm

Thanks for understanding what I meant.....I never got the impression that you were an egotistical so and so, and I certainly didn't mean to imply that.

We ALL have egos, and it's almost automatic to think that it must be us when something goes wrong sexually. It's hard to get the ego out of a situation like that, I know, I've BTDT!

And knowing her age makes it more understandable, and most definitely the lack of hormones plays into it....I saw a big difference once I was taken off HRT. I'm glad she was smiling today!

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In reply to: richdick
Fri, 10-13-2006 - 12:46pm

Rich.... glad it worked out!! :)

Dakine... first of all... this is mamachelle's husband... not her. Sorry if I came across the wrong way yesterday... it was still early for me... maybe I hadnt had enough coffee yet!!! hehe... As I said in my earlier post... I think you are very intelligent and love your responses... for some reason it just hit me wrong when I read that one and it went straight to the ego answer... Its true... we all have egos... but I think I just read that response the wrong way or something.. after going over it again this morning.... I understand what you were trying to say... not sure why I didnt yesterday! My apologies.

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In reply to: richdick
Fri, 10-13-2006 - 1:08pm

Not to worry! No offense taken! That's what makes these boards interesting. Diverse opinions and ideas.

PS: Don't use your wife's name! More men are always needed and welcome! Sign yourself up!

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