Fiance is unable to orgasm.. Help!
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Fiance is unable to orgasm.. Help!
| Tue, 07-20-2004 - 3:58pm |
My fiance very rarely has orgasm from actual intercourse, and never from oral sex. The second part isn't really a probhlem, but the first definitely is. He has low testosterone, but this has been pretty much been ruled out as the cause even by his doctor, since he has no trouble giving himself an orgasm. We've been together 8 months, and he's had maybe a total of 5 orgasms during sex. And only three of them were anywhere near what he can give himself. I was wondering if anyone else has had any similar issues, and if so what you did. We'e been thinking about talking to some one, but right now we have no insurance, so any advice from someone who may have been in the situation and either had success on their own or got help from a professional. This problem has driven both my finace and I to tears on several occasions, so any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

There is NO point in allowing it to drive you both to tears. That won't fix anything. The BEST thing you can do is to STOP making an issue out of it. The harder he tries, the worse it will be. It's called a "self-fulfilling prophecy". He's so worried that it won't happen, that of course, it's not going to happen, because he's worrying instead of enjoying. It's EXACTLY the same reasons some women never have orgasms.
Even if he doesn't reach climax, he IS enjoying intercourse, or oral stimulation. If he can't finish, then just let it go, and let him finish himself. If you just try to relax about it, and let HIM relax about it, it will happen eventually. The more you carry on about it, the longer it will continue.
Relax, enjoy the pleasures you're both having, and let him finish however he has to. That's the key to success.
If a man has prolonged sex and doesn't ejaculate, is he satified, or frustrated?
-phat.