Fiction vs. Reality?
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| Fri, 08-19-2005 - 11:43am |
Nancy Friday wrote a New York Times bestseller where she supposedly includes authentic letters from women describing their sexual fantasies. I have a few questions for the women of this forum regarding its contents and your thoughts:
1. She writes that, "Today's new women make no apologies for imagining themselves with the real thing. Throughout this book women have been strapping on dildos, both in fact and in fantasy.
So, do you have this fantasy? If so, care to share why or describe the fantasy?
2. In almost EVERY letter of the hundreds appearing in the book the woman writing the fantasy uses words I can not even print here, let's just say repeated use of the "F" word, the "C" word, etc., with graphic comments I can not even hint at here or my message would probably be removed. I wonder if the letters were edited for prurient interests and to sell books?
3. She devotes a whole chapter to women with bigger sexual appetites than men, with a typical letter stating, "Me and my girlfriends believe women are hornier than men", then explaining why and delving into their fantasies. Many of these fantasies are very graphic and detailed, going on for pages.
Opinions ladies?

1. Just because it's in print doesn't mean it's true!
2. I'm sure there are many women who's sexual appetites are bigger than some men's.....just as there are many women who's sexual appetites are smaller.
3. All human beings are different....and you can't "generalize".
1. No, I do not personally have the fantasy of strapping on a dildo. The idea of penetrating a man has never aroused me in the least. I have many other fantasies though.
2. I think the problem is the common misperception of female sexuality. Women can be every bit as sexual and diverse in their interests as men.
3. I believe women are sexual creatures and are as interested in sex generally, as any man. Like a man, if a woman has a partner who is as interested in exploring and expressing her desires, and encourages it, then she will be more open and unihibited in every way. I think society still puts more judgement and constraints on women, in general, but in a trusting and secure relationship, women tend to flourish just as a man does.
Edited 8/19/2005 12:08 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
I have never had the fantasy to wear a strap-on.
I think that women are just as sexual as men are. The difference is how society sees them. It's perfectly acceptable for men to go out and sow their oats and not as acceptable for women. Sure, it's her burden if she gets pregnant, but I don't see why the "burden" shouldn't be the male's, as well. If they're not sowing their oats, then they couldn't impregnate either. The onus should be on both sexes, not just one. Women are told that it's not proper or they'll be labeled a slut if they have sex(insert all variables like): too soon; with too many partners; without a relationship established; unless you're going to marry the guy; and like it; and are good at it....just to name a few.
I have always been a very sexual being. I began masturbating at a very young age...and I've always had fantasies(some of which are out there... ;-) I have always had a very large sexual appetite, I'm multi-orgasmic, and have matched, if not surpassed the men I've been with. And it doesn't matter how much sex I get, I still masturbate. Even at 47, I'm ready to go just about anytime...and I plan on being that way for the rest of my living days. ;-)
Edited 8/19/2005 1:00 pm ET ET by rain_dancer_iam
I'm the odd woman out here.