figuring out each other = great sex!
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| Wed, 12-28-2005 - 2:24pm |
i'm so soooo happy! my boyfriend and i got back together (this was last week), we discussed everything and worked it out. yesterday we had sex and OMG was it great. i orgasmed twice! twice i tell you, twice..i thought i wasn't able to orgasm twice before...for the longest i thought i couldn't :) the sex was very great and we finally figured each other out. we had positive communication and the overall experience was positive and overwhelming. both of us started crying! that was a big wow! i just had to share that!
i have a question:
would you feel more closer to your spouse if he was so troubled by something that he came to you with the problem and began crying? and would you find him more "manly" or weaker? because i've asked some of my friends and a few of they had said that they would NEVER want to be with a man who cries. and the other said that "men shouldn't ever cry because God only gave women emotions to cry". and i told them that he doesn't CRY all the time and this was the first time he'd ever did it. and i honestly felt honored adn touched that he felt comfortable enough to release emotions like this and show this "vaunerable"(sp?) side of him to me.

Your friends are really stupid! There is nothing "unmanly" about being emotional!
Emotions are honest, and too many men are afraid to show their emotions.
Congrats on the orgasms! Feels good, doesn't it! Yes, my spouse has come to me about things, crying, and I do feel a lot closer to him. It makes me feel special that he can talk to me, and completely open up about his problems. Some people don't find this "manly", but I believe that men should feel open to cry, too. I think they are healthier if they feel comfortable with it. It allows them to let it out, instead of keeping it all in. My husband doesn't do it much, but there's been a few times, and it felt great for both of us to be open with it. For us, it just brings us closer.
~Stephanie
Your friends attitudes are ridiculous.
I would actually find it offensive if my partner didn't open up and get emotional from time to time, because when he shuts himself off it feels like I'm not wanted. And he should be able to trust me enough not to judge him for being emotional, and feel comfortable relying on me for some support. Because that's what I'm there for. To accept him as he is unconditionally and support him however I can.
Jan