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A finger up your bum
| Sat, 05-28-2005 - 8:14am |
I've been with my boyfriend a few years and had never triied anything anal before. After some drinks one night he was obviously feeling brave and pushed a finger up my ass. It felt suprisingly great and it lead to us having full anal sex, which was also great. Since then we've not had full anal sex again but now most times during sex or foreplay he does finger my ass. It feels great and makes an orgasm really intense but for some reason it maks me feel a bit funny mentally afterwards, like we've done something wrong i guess. If anyone else practices anal stuff is this a normal way to feel and will i stop thinking this? Also do other people find this as pleasurable as i do?

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Hey jamy!
According to what I've read all this time, my guess is that there's more women who enjoy it than not. VERY normal for you to as well.
Unless you're religiously raised, I'd guess your uneasy feelings about anal would be nothing short of simple "taboo" feelings...many people do, many don't. This will be up to you, personally, and you as a couple as to how you feel about this...no one here can really tell you if its going to be a right or wrong decision either way.
YES, Tish hit the nail on the head! Hope the replies help ya. :)
C H A R A C T E R
Maybe the funny feeling you noted after the 1st experience of anal sex was the result of making the decision after a few drinks. Try doing it fully sober the next time and see if you feel the same way afterwards.
IF you do, then it could be that you aren't fully convinced it's right for you. But decide when you have all your wits about you.
Every act isn't for every person though.
Edited 5/28/2005 1:22 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
>>she on the other hand surprised me one night and gave me a finger and rubbed something that had me unloading all over the place,most intense orgasm I ever had,
That would be your prostate, the male equivalent of her g-spot, and where most of your ejaculate comes from. My DW did the same thing for me one time during oral and I went off about ten seconds later for what seemed like hours.
Hi iamylove
We have never had full anal due to possibly a size issue. But a finger up each other's bum is always welcome. Yes the first time feeling is funny, and it is going to be funny for a few more times. DW said the first time round, she even felt as if she wanted to go to the pot, but she learned it is just part of the pleasurable experience. You say "...funny mentaly... " so you already realise it is in the mind, so I think you will get over it soon enough. You feel "... great and makes an orgasm really intense..." so marry these two phrases you used and go for it !
A couple of guys seem to have found the holy grail of male g-spot orgasm. Please tell me where to find it. Oh, I have read it where it says you will find it like the female g-spot, i.e., when you put your finger in and feel "up", you will hit it. DW has tried to find it for me, but I have never had that experience. Or is it possible that she is hitting it, but my g-spot is not responding ? is that possible ?
>>A couple of guys seem to have found the holy grail of male g-spot orgasm. Please tell me where to find it.
In a couple of inches, along the front, basically behind the base of the penis. Feels almost like a walnut (lump with a central lengthwise groove). Play with that and feel the results...
Hi Amy,
Glad you and your boyfriend have found something that you enjoy! My wife and I practice anal (full anal about once a month, but with fingers almost every time). The first time that I played with her anus, my wife loved it, but had the same type of reaction after...she felt a little guilty and then when we had full anal (her idea) she had the same reaction after. We really have discovered that this feeling is due to social conditioning. There is the stigma of "unclean" and even more the feeling that "good girls" don't like things like this. Once you recognize that it's just conditioning, the conditioning loses its hold and just dissappears.
LIsten to your body and what it likes and dislikes...it is wiser than our minds as the mind can be conditioned, the body simply feels.
Also, someone else mentioned the male "g-spot". About two years ago was the first time that my wife used her finger in my anus while giving me oral sex and it was absolutely mind blowing! However, with men there is even more of a stigma to "being penetrated" due to the association with homosexuality...but I got over that pretty quickly (LOL!); just took one orgasm that nearly knocked me unconscious to get past any guilt feelings about that one.
Peace.
Scott.
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