A finger up your bum

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Registered: 06-25-2003
A finger up your bum
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Sat, 05-28-2005 - 8:14am
I've been with my boyfriend a few years and had never triied anything anal before. After some drinks one night he was obviously feeling brave and pushed a finger up my ass. It felt suprisingly great and it lead to us having full anal sex, which was also great. Since then we've not had full anal sex again but now most times during sex or foreplay he does finger my ass. It feels great and makes an orgasm really intense but for some reason it maks me feel a bit funny mentally afterwards, like we've done something wrong i guess. If anyone else practices anal stuff is this a normal way to feel and will i stop thinking this? Also do other people find this as pleasurable as i do?

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Registered: 12-28-2004
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 1:55am
Thanks scott and guy for the inputs. 2 inches is not a lot of length and DW should be able to reach it she has long fingers anyway. I do have a nice pleasurable feel, so I guess she is hitting it, but I have not been able to have this orgasm. Like you said it is probably conditioning which I am not consciously aware of. But analyze this - I love it when DW plays with my perineum and the space where scrotum meets my thighs and that is in fact the ace up her sleeve when I am late in cumming during a BJ. She teases me that it is my womanly side showing up because the perineum is where the vagina would be in a woman. But I am not embarrassed by this (my retort is - "izzatzo, well then this latent woman is married to the biggest butch I have ever seen because don't you love clitoral more than vaginal..." and so on. We enjoy the banter as part of our after-play. Moreover, like I said DW penetrates me regularly there with her finger. I say all this to show that there are no hang ups between us and still this lack of M-G-spot O for me is puzzling. But we are going to keep at it and I am sure it is going to come sooner than later.
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Registered: 12-23-2004
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 1:30pm
Question: Had you guys talked about this at all before he tried it? I want so badly to do this to my wife, but she wants no part of it.
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Registered: 12-23-2004
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 3:05pm
I like it! Go for it and have fun. You're totally not alone in this. :)
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Registered: 01-17-2005
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 3:12pm

iamylove- pretty much like everyone else said its all about how others that influenced u b4 felt about it. This had the oppposite effect on me knowing that I did something that everyone thought was for "bad grls" so it kinda turned me on. lol If you like it dont let the rest of the worlds feelings inflict on YOUR sex life. Not everyone enjoys anal but for those that do lose the guilt and have fun with it!

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Registered: 11-15-2003
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 3:21pm

Hi Denny,

My wife and I did talk about anal intercourse, but not the fingers. The fingers just kind of happened naturally. She was actually against doing anal and I let it go completely. However, in the heat of passion, she brought it up and we went for it. First time took quite a bit of time to get her prepared but she was game and eventually everything worked just fine.

My advice would be to express the desire, but if she says no it's best just to let it go. It is REALLY not for everybody, and your wife may be one of those people. If you get obsessive about it, not only will she not want to do it EVER, she will probably be turned off sex in general. Anal sex is fun, but it is just sex (most of the fun is the novelty...it doesn't feel that different from vaginal sex)...not worth wrecking a marriage over.

Peace.
Scott.

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Registered: 05-27-2005
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 6:00pm
I love finger in my bum... it definetly intensifies my orgasms. It took me a while to get used to anal sex, but now i love it... we do it once in a while... Be sure to use lotsa lube and relax your bum hole to make it more pleasurable!!!!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 4:35pm

Nope, not for me. I've tried digital stimulation many times, with plenty of lube and it's just not a turnon for me.

My DH enjoys it occasionally.

But anal sex isn't something either of us has ever had any interest in trying.

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